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writes:Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. Okay, yesterday my grandmother passed away. Let me start from the beginning. My boyfriend and i been together for 2 years and 5 months now. He has cheated multiples of times, mistreats me, lies, basically he needs to grow up. Okay, the other day i seen where he was msg another female on facebook, someone he use to "talk" to. Remind you we agreed on not to converse with opposite sex via facebook msg and txt msgs. He was trying to hide it like he hid our relationship from 20+ females on facebook. So we got into a huge fight and then like an hour later, he comes with a sob story and wanted to talk. So we talked and then i gave in and took him back. Okay, yesterday my grandmother died. And times like this is when i need him the most. He shows no concerened whatsoever. Before she died he asked was i okay and was my grandmother okay. That's the only thing he said. So he did some things on FB and i was i'ming him asking him why is he acting like this in a time when i need him the most. So he replied back "bye" then he blocked me from his wall and he started ignoring me like he always do. So i just deleted him from facebook. So he calls me, remind you my grandmother just past and he only showed a lil concerend before she past, and the first thing he said to me was "So we're not together anymore?" And i asked why is that the first thing that comes out his mouth. He was like man i just want to know if we're together or not because you deleted me. And i replied saying in a time like this, that's your biggest concern, like really. So he got mad and hung up in my face. And til this day, he hasn't called or wrote me or even showed up to apologize or anything. He wrote my sister and said he is sorry for our lost and he hope we stay strong but nothing directed to me. I love this boy with all i have. I took him back every time after he cheated, mistreated me, called me out my name, hits me, lie to me, keeps secrets from me. It's like no matter how bad he treats me i always take him back. Like idon't know what to do. I'm so hurt because he shows no concerned about my loss and all his concern is about us being together or not. I just want to leave him a lone for good but it's hard because i love him a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): He doesn't care about you like you care about him. Be strong for yourself...let him go...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I agree with 'mianna711'. I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. This off course must be a very difficult time for you. Not only are you mourning over your grandmother but he is treating you like dirt. I understand that you love him, but sweetie he doesn't love you back he is just using you and you are letting him and in the long run you will only keep hurting yourself more. You need to find the strength and power within you to cut contact with him and tell him it is over for good and you never want to hear from him again. Believe me honey it is his loss and yes it will take time but you will look back and realise that you made the best decision ever.
If he loved you he wouldn't be out cheating on you. He would be there with you supporting you because of your loss. But he only cares about himself. You don't trust him that is clear to see and you should never ever let a guy hit you. He has no respect for women and you can do so much better. Yes you love him now but you really don't want to live the rest of your life being treated like this sweetie do you. Cut all contact now and you will feel better in time I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): I'm sorry for your loss. You need to lose this scumbag. He takes advantage of you every chance he gets and he's not going to change. And if he can't even show small compassion towards you but can show it to your sister then it just shows how heartless he is. If he's willing to start fights with you during your time of mourning then he's definitely not for you. He'll learn his lesson when you leave him. You can find someone better and that's what you should do.
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