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writes:Yeah I recently wrote about how I am still in love with my ex after two years. We dated for two years and and off because I treated him pretty badly because i was jealous and insecure. After we broke up i spent the last two years wanting him back so bad it hurt. Well just very recently I took a big leap because I was so sick of being in love with him and not doing anything about it. I sent him a message on myspace. I apologized and told him i was sorry for all the things I had done to him and that I wanted to be friends again. Well i didnt expect him to even respond but he called me the next morning. We talked for about an hour and he easily forgave me and we became fast friends again. Talking him was easy as breathing and it didnt feel like we hadnt talked in two years. Later on in the week i took an even bigger leap and left him a message on myspace asking him if he wanted to come to my house for a party my mom was having. He said yes. He came and he stayed until two o clock in the morning. Keep in mind that we hadnt talked in two years before this. I was so nervous about him coming i think that i did and said all the wrong things. I wasnt as nice to him as i probably should have been but i wasnt mean. Im just not an overly nice person, i was just myself, i couldnt be someone i wasnt. I really got the mixed feeling from him though. He didnt try to make any moves and just treated me as a friend, which i really dont mind being friends first as long as it leads to us being together because i love him and i cant be just friends with him. But on the other hand, everyone thought we had great chemistry and we belong together. Also, He cared enough to call, remember my number, come to my house, and remember where i lived. Also he said some things when we talked on the phone that made me think he night still have feelings for me. When he was at ny house, my eight year old cousin unintentionally called him my boyfriend and he did not correct him.I think that if he did not have any feelings left for me he would not have called or come over, that is what I mean by mixed signals. Please help me i need some advice. What should i do next? Does anyone think he has feelings for me or not? Iam so confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): It sounds to me like he does have feelings for you. I think that as you are the one that has initiated contact after two years he is proberly expecting that to continue. You have come this far and the only way to find out for sure would be to go even further and ask him out on a date. You dont have to open up to him so much but go on a casual date and encourage him to do more talking then take it from there. This way he will know what your real intentiions are and that you are looking for more than just friendship. When he is sure of this then he may possibly start to open up more.
However, you broke up in the past for a reason so now that you have had time to cool off and learn more about yourself. Try not to make history repeat itself but not bringing out the same negative qualities that were shown in the past.
Well done and good luck!
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 hey,well i would say he must have some sort of feelings for you. if he was completely over you and leaving you in his past he would not have responded to your email - and he definitely would not have gone to your house!you need to try to be a little bit nicer to him though. Remember you admitted you treated him badly so he needs to be completely 110% sure you would not do it again so you need to go that extra mile to make him feel that if you did get back together then things would be different.i think he probably didnt make a move because he wasnt sure that was what you wanted. maybe you should send him an email saying it was great seeing him and spending time with him again and you would love to see more of him. that should let him know you still have feelings for him without scaring him off by declaring undying love!but to answer your question i would say that yes he does have feelings for you because i cant see any other reason why he would go to your mums party. take everything slowly and think each step through because now that he is back in your life if you mess up and he makes a quick sharp exit out of your life again your gonna be right back where you were 2 years ago.and well done on being brave enough to contact him! i know that was not easy but hopefully it will all pay off for you.hugs and kissesBrookexxx
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