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writes:I'm 16 and i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. At the beginning of our relationship i just thought it would be a casual thing but he was looking for long term. I'ts my first relationship and i've had absolutly no experience with boys so i didin't really know how to act. When we'd been going out for about 3 months he asked me what i'd do if we broke up and i said 'it wouldn't really matter because we've being going out for a while'. i know it sounds bad but i didn't mean it in a horrible way. i just ment that it was up to fate and if that chose that we shoudn't be together then that was ok because things happen for a reason so maybe it would be for the best.Now i really love him and i can't imagine my life without him. I really want us to be toghether for a long time.Also he's got deppression. I't getting better but every now and again it comes out again. he gets really paraniod and worried that i might cheat on him. he keeps bringing up the past even though i've told him that i don't feel like that anymore.he thinks we should see a countsler but i really don't want to . i think that we're too young (he's 18) and we don't have any real problems. i feel uncomftable talking to my feelings with him let alone a random person. I don't know what to do. can anyone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Thanks for imput.
I've written him 2 letters and he already see's a countsler by himself.
I talked to him yesturday and he said that if i couln't explain all the stuff that i did that it wouldn't work and he said that it wasn't good enogh but he talked to his friend on the phone and she sorted it out.
I told him how much i loved him and i think everythings sorted now.
P.s what a rubbish title!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Being an ex manic depressive couselling is such a good idea. I went to see a lady for a year and I loved our meetings as I could talk about anything and everything with her. It did take me a while to find someone who I felt I could be that open with so if he does try and go for counselling tell him that he doesn't have to stick with the first one he goes to see. I'd suggest he goes to see one on his own if you really don't want to go.
At 16 I can understand your feelings of not wanting anything that serious. As long as you are loyal to your boyfriend it should be ok. Tell him about how you feel about the relationship now. If you are to shy to do it face to face why not send him a loving text message or write him a letter.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 June 2007):
 I'm with you on the counselling. You're just having the problems any young couple have in a relationship. He's feeling insecure in your relationship because of the things you said before and his depression probably aggravates that, but it doesn't mean that your relationship can't work. Try to tell him you love him every day to reassure him and hopefully this will make a world of difference to your relationship.
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