I told him I am in love with him and he needs time to process all of it?

A female age , anonymous writes:

He is my sister's ex. She gave me her blessing to see him. He is 50 and never married and has no kids.I am 48, divorced with 2 adult children. He asked me to Christmas shop with him. We went out 4-5 days and nights each week for about 5 weeks. We always had a nice dinner out and he wouldn't let me pay ever. We had so much fun. One night at his place while we were getting ready to leave he pulled me to him on the couch and we kissed. He rolled over and said he was still in love with my sister and we never kissed like that again. He has since told me he is over her and wants to move on. At Christmas he didn't even give me a card but texted Merry Christmas. When he came to visit after Xmas he was concerned that I didn't respond to his text. New Years Eve he texted me Happy New Years at midnight. New Years Day he was reliving memories of my sister. He called me to go out the next day and I did. Stupid! They broke up over a year ago. He says I'm his lifeline and bestfriend. Meanwhile, I only hear from him when he wants to do something. He came over 3 nights ago for dinner and then we went out to shop. On the way home he said "you know I'm messed up but I have to move on in order to get better." Then he said there is someone interested in dating him but he has not decided to do so yet. I just decidedat that point to let him know that I am in love with him and hoped I'd be the one he dated. He acted so surprised and confused. We talked for 2 hours and he decided that he needs time to process all of this. What do you think?

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