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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 years and he's been living with me for a year. He was recently divorced when we met and going through some real estate issues, and still is a year and a half later - they are still "settling" stuff! They have no kids, it's two homes trying to refinance to get each other's names off the mortagages which neither can accomplish. We have been continuously fighting about this. I told him he could stay with me until he got on his feet then start kicking in rent or whatever. He said he would when he refinanced his home or sold it. Neither has happenend 13 months later and he still hasn't paid me to live with me. He has help with things around the house if something needs to be fixed he buys it and fixes it and just now, splitting heating cost but did not last winter. He makes more than me and I am a single mother trying to pay for my kids things as well. We almost broke up last summer as he was living with me for free and still paying her phone bill so I asked that that stop, it did 3 months after the fight. Now they are still going back and forth and I'm sick of it. She mails him thigns to my house to sign, he hides it because he knows it causes problems for us, I get upset, etc.. It has been going on since day 1. During our fight he blamed me for holding things up because i get upset when they are constantly communicating and see no need for it. He said if I "allowed" them to keep in touch then it would not have taken so long. I don't see how talking to her would make the bank approve both of their refinancing but whatever. He said he still can't help me out financially becuase he needs to save money for closing cost and get the principle down on his mortage to get her name off. I told him he should move out then and he said his parents are renovating one of their homes for him. I asked him how he would pay for electric etc.. and he said he would. So why can he pay it there and not at my house? He also once told me he paid all heating and electric when he was married but yet he can't with me? I know he loves me and I love him but I dont' understand why he would turn this around like it's my jealousy issues that is making it drag on. Am I being taking advantage of?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Good grief, just dump this guy! He's basically using you for a free place to stay, and that's totally wrong, especially considering he makes more than you! Make him pay his own bills at his own house!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Yes, you are being taken advantage of. Here you are struggling and he's saving money for his closing costs? Hello? There are bills to be paid now! Where does his money go if he's living with you for free?
I think it's time you kicked this man-boy to the curb. Let his parents put up with him for a while.
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