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writes:If you are a girl and your ex-boyfiend says its time to move on say in a text or Email. Would you move on or would you still phone him, even though he says move on? I thought move on means move on its over leave me alone, just that my ex-girlfriend phones me even though i said move on.Do you think she stil like me?sThanks for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): I was in a relationship with my bf for nearly 4 years. Initially he said he wanted some space, so I gave it to him. He then texted me and said he'd met someone else, so whether he said that because I didn't give him enough space I don't know. the only thing is the weekend before we broke up we had a really good time and the intimacy was amazing. This has really left me in a quandry as there were no indications that he was going to finish it. We have broken up in the past normally because of a petty disagreement and after a few weeks have had a reconciliation.So I'm still left hoping that this is indeed the case, even tho we did'nt have any arguments. At the moment he will not answer my calls or texts, I just wish he would speak to me so as to give me closure and let me be able to move on in my life. So i think you owe it to your girl to answer her calls and if you really mean that things are over then tell her truthfully. Leaving her hanging on and hoping she's going to do a disappearing act is not going to work if she loves you. You are going to have to take the bull by the horns on this one, however hurtful it's going to be for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): Texts and emails are a gutless way to break up with someone and from what you have written you have broken up with this women harshly. Do the decent thing and end things properly and ammicably. By this you speak to her and make it clear that you want to move on and that means you don't want there to be any contact with one another.
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reader, LittleTwoLegs  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I don't know that I can believe you are the age listed if you used those words, and especially through something like a text message. Nonetheless..."Move on" can be more versatile than you think. Sure it could mean time to see other people, but it could also mean to settle recent disaggreements, or to get passed hard feelings and conquer difficulties together. It is never OK to break up with a single sentence and absolutely never through text or e-mail. Things are always left fuzzy, unclear, and can't be taken seriously enough if the person is left wondering "what the hell does that mean" since they cannot hear the tone of your voice, see your nonverbal behavior or your expressions, etc.So. Think about how you feel, review why you do not want to be with this person, and then ask her out to discuss things, maybe to a park where you can both be calm and have privacy, but not be confronted by each other's living quarters or anything. Meet up there, do not drive together. Tell her your feelings, make sure she understands (do not leave her if she is confused) and then say your goodbyes. After this if she still calls don't blame her. It's just part of the break-up process and it's something everyone deals with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): She likes you and so she is going to want to put right whatever is wrong. Just emailing/texting isn't going to be enough for her to understand the situation. I think meeting her face to face is a good idea or at least talk to her on the phone. Maybe she needs to hear it in your voice and even see it in your body language to be able to understand what you are telling her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): Okay guy, she needs to close this chapter in her life and with a text / e-mail... my dear, it doesn't cut it. Meet w/her face to face and tell her "i know i was a coward in not telling you in persone, but i can't be with you". Don't try to sugar coat it or it'll keep her with that little hope of: Oh maybe he'll come back. If you are clear and blunt - Trust me, she'll never come back. Just be a man and not play with a poor girls feelings. Thanks!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hello
Of course she still likes you and she seems to be having trouble letting you go.
Have you said to her "I don't want to be with you anymore" because if not that's what it might take.
You need to try to be kind here, do you answer her calls?
If not answer one and ask her why she's calling you, and then explain to her that you would prefer it if she left you alone. Try not to be as blunt as I have, try to spare her feelings and be kind.
Good Luck!
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