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writes:Please help me.?EditThere is a guy who I work with for a year. He knows that I had cancer six years ago. I have a scar on my chest of the chemo port. At first I didn t like him but suddenly I started to develop feelings for him but not tell him. We bantered a lot and joked at lot. We could have conversations and joke about stuff but I did not let it go further because I was married. I eventually told him that considered him a great friend because if the help he gave me at work. He left the job in January and now I march we are reconnected because I have problems with my husband where we are separated. He started to call me and text. Somehow I expressed that I liked him. Then he says that I want things at his eon pace and I left no gap. Then he says why when he saw me in the store I ran away, I said I was scared. Then he said why when we sat at the bus stop I ran away, I said I was scared. I wasn t separated and now I am. Why didn t he say anything I asked him. Then he started to say he admired me, I am beautiful, that I am hardworking than the girls he dated. He started to ask me if I wanted to come to his house send have sex. We made a date. He said he did not have me for a year and he wants me for the whole night. He says that he wants to see my scar, and that I am beautiful. I really thought we had something because many times we spoke his eyes would flicker, he would bother me all the time. Either joking, poking fun at me and people would say we make a good couple. I told him all this. Did I scare him off, because the next day he avoids my calls and texts and we have no contact since. 0 following
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2015): Follow Honeypie's advice. You shouldn't get involved with anyone else until you have given yourself time to heal your emotional wounds. Enjoy being single. With this guy, I can suggest two reasons: 1) he's fickle and isn't serious about you 2) he's respectable person and realized that he needs time to think things through before getting involved with you thus the no communication.
You know him better based on how he is with other people and with you but I would wait it out and just do things that you've always wanted to do but never did. He's not worth wasting your time. If he really has feelings for you, he will wait for you as well.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2015):
 My advice DON'T pursue anything with this guy or any other till your divorce is final.
You have already stated that you "ran" twice because you were scared. So WORK on that before jumping in. To me that seems like you ARE NOT ready.
And don't have sex with a guy because he sweet talks you. You will end up being hurt. This guy? Isn't looking for a partner, but someone to occasionally have sex with when he has an itch.
Get your divorce, find your center and work though WHY the marriage fell apart BEFORE you jump into another relationship.
And separated doesn't mean single. YOU are still LEGALLY married and will BE till the divorce is FINAL. ONE thing at a time.
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