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36-40,
*blade
writes:Met this girl through dating app a month agothings went well we got emotionally connected we both had really fun times and we get along really well.So she came over for the weekend on sat night we went out to dinner and drank few. Then we came home had more drinks but not too drunk. so we went to bed and we had sex wasn't awkward or anything.The next day we hung out all day went to the movies and went for a walk at the park holding hands cute stuff.So here is where the problem is. on sun night when we went to bed i wanted to have sex but i felt i kinda forced her to and she said she wasnt feeling it and i wasnt thinking clearly i turned my back against and didnt talk just slept. Next morning we woke up she was being very cold and distant but i leaned in for a kiss and she kissed me. so i had to go to work so i left and we havent spoken to each other since. its been a week.i called her on tues night no call back or txt and wed afternoon no call back. So i did sent her txt saying apologizing coz i felt i forced her to have sex which she didnt want to.. any tips and suggestions? p.s she hasnt blocked me on fb and ig and she has a history of blocking guys number too on iphone. My phone calls went through so i know she hasnt blocked me yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2014): You were basically acting like a baby when you didn't get what you want. I wonder if you would have realized the petulance and rudeness, and even rapist-LIKE of your actions had the girl not reacted coldly afterwards. Good move on the girl to have dropped contact with you. Who knows what you would have done in the future.
Reflect and don't push people into having sex. Respect their decision whether they reject sex at the beginning or during it. And when they say no, whether it be direct or subtle, you don't give them the cold shoulder.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (3 May 2014):
 To be honest, if I was just getting to know someone (which I think you two moved really fast for the weekend stay over) and they pouted like that over me not being in the mood for sex and rolled over, pissed off, and ignored me, I'd be extremely put off. I'd probably not call back, either. I, unfortunately, think you may have blown it on this one.
If a girl likes you and wants to see you, she will let it be known. She would have called you back by now.
Just my two cents. Good luck.
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