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writes:I'm in a program that takes me away from home several nights a week and I'm with the same group of people each of those nights. I feel like what started off as simple flirting is escalating. I thought I was happily married until this. I find myself wanting to spend more and more time with this person and we both know there is an attraction, we've discussed it. What do I do? Is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): You are playing with fire and u will get burnt. That is reality.
Watch your hb, kids, family slipping away as you open your legs.....
You are playing a dangerous game and your betrayal will have consequences. You think u will not get caught, but hun, cheaters do. Its just a matter of time.
So decide: a lover or your family. You cannot have boith.
NB: with u playing away from home, won't u be 'surprised' if your hb does the same as well. After all what is good for you is even better for the innocent clueless hb. Isn't it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Why do people say simple or innocent flirting?.....When you start deliberately flirting with someone you call their attention to you as a man/woman NOT as a friend....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): HiImagine spending time with this new person all is new and then imagine 10 years ahead.....but imagine been WITHOUT your husband and him with somebody else....may help you put it into reality a bit. Your choice hope things work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): You took a vow. I suggest you honor it. End this flirtation immediately. That is the adult thing to do.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Hi,
I am sure you're a good person & it was never your intensions to develop feelings for another man.
I've been in the other side of the fance, I was w/my partner 10 years. Its not nice to lie, your husband cares about you, love you, trust you with all his heart. You don't know the damage this could do to your husband emotionally, mentally, physically. You can never take it back what's is done, once is done, will damage you, your husband lives forever. No matter if you decide or realize you really love your husband later on, your relationship with your husband will never be the same.
It has been 8 mos since, still hurts so much. I cry everyday. Its not the fact that he was seeing someone, the affair, the physical aspect, but the "trust". He was my everything....
I don't blame him for cheating. People fall in love & sometimes feelings change. Its ok to do what makes you happy. I loved him & if he was honest from the beginning I would let him go, that's how much I care..
I am 38 years old, I am calm, reasonable person, hates fighting, drama, took care of him & treated him like king. He was also my bestfriend. I also always tried to keep myself looking decent, I like taking care of myself. I say that because somepeople blames the spouse for not being good to ur man, gainning weigh, letting yourself go. Well that was not my case!!
I hope you make the right decision. Whatever you choose just make sure is the right one for you, your husband & your new friend. Make sure nobody gets hurt
Hope this help?
Good luck!
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