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*nya jayne
writes:hey i have been going out with this boy for 2 months now and he is so sweet and i love him to bits. he is the most popular guy in school and he hangs out with a load of girls. i dont know how to flirt, so i dont know if he is flirting with these girls. how do i know ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): I would only like to add few more tips:Offering help - If the guy offers to help you with something, like really excitedly “Hey, I can help you with that!” that is also a sign that he likes you. He wants to do something nice to you, to help you out, it’s also pretty obvious no :) ? Carries on conversation - Have you noticed that he sometimes wants to just extend a conversation that has led to a dead end? If he really doesn’t want to end the talk and comes up with new topics, ideas, jokes, and if you determine that he does it deliberately - you’re right :) HE LIKES YOU :) Not mentioning other women - This can be a pretty clear giveaway. If he normally talks about women and mentions his female friends but when he talks to you - he doesn’t - then that can be a sign. Why does he do that? Well he just does not want you to think that he might like any of those girls... It’s weird, but guys do it subconsciously...Well those are SOME of many signs if a guy likes you, but if you wanna know more, there’s a whole website covering the topic of how to tell if a guy likes you, so check it out /
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reader, Abella  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 he may or may not flirt with others.
But in a relationship it is important to have trust in your partner. Has he done something to make you not trust him?
Some people are more accomplished at flirting than others. But some flirty behaviour is harmless. Flirting may already have a much longer article in the articles in DC. But to touch on a few things that are flirting, these things include a genuine compliment, holding gaze just a little longer, touching a person on their body like a hand, shoulder, arm etc., the flirting can also be sitting closer, the way a person moves, their tone of voice. A smile. Some things may not even be flirting, and may just be exchanging pleasantries between friends.
You cannot be everywhere, you cannot be worrying constantly regarding IF he is flirting, and what constitutes flirting.
And you cannot engage others to check on him, for flirting. He may just be an affable really lovely guy who everyone thinks is a great guy.
I had a great Uncle Dentist. Always faithful to his sweet wife, who he loved very much. But flirt!!! I've seen him flirt with all manner of ladies. One of his clients was in her nineties. And i know he was flirting with her, just by the way he spoke to her in the street one day when i was with him. And she chuckled. Flirting can be innocent. He was never sleazy. He knew what he could do, and went no further.
Your guy has chosen you as his girlfriend. So you have some special qualities that especially interested him. Though he is also popular with many. He's a likeable guy. So it must be lovely to have such a cute guy as your boy friend. Has he done anything to make you jealous? Or are you simply over-anxious about a possibility?
Jealousy is not an attractive quality and can destroy a relationship.
Flirting is usually used to try to attract the attention of a new suitor where a girl wishes to become the exclusive girl friend of that suitor.
Once you have a boy friend it is more about getting to know every nuance and interest of your boy friend where you (and he) show an interest in each other and each other's interests. Listen to eac other and interact with each other, exclusively.
And you get to know exactly what
delights each other. You probably flirt already with your boyfriend, but don't label it as 'flirting.'
Some flirting is light and not serious. In fact some people IN a reationship will stillflirt with everyone and anything. To them it is just a fun thing, but they never intend to be unfaithful to their partner in a physical sense.
The flirts who are a worry are the accomplished flirts like playing the field BUT who are already IN a relationship and then do deliberately flirt with others, with the intention to make a real physical connection (short-term) as they enjoy the chase and scoring with a girl and then drop the other girl, and go back to their partner.
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