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writes: Hello,I have lived with my boyfriend for four years and he makes me happy. However through work I met and became friends with a married couple. She was fighting breast cancer and unfortunately she passed away. After attending the funeral, a few months passed by with no contact between me and her widower, but then he made contact through work. We spent hours talking where he admitted to having feelings for me. We then kissed and exchanged personal numbers. Since then, we text and phone each other daily and he says he will wait for me to make my decision as to who/what I want and that he would love to get together. I’m so confused. Until this sudden contact I was happy but now I can’t get this new man out of my every thought as I feel that we have so much more in common and a true future! Both my boyfriend and my other man have children of 6 years old and I don’t honestly know if my boyfriend is nothing more than a safety net! What should I do? I know friends and family would be shocked if we were to split up.Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2006): Well you should talk to your current man about it leaving him in the dust like that is not cool technically you have cheated on him not cool Make sure this new guy is not just a hunny moon period everything is so good in the beginning I would think long and hard before you make any decisions or before things get deeper also think of you being happy cause a happy mommy is a good one. Maybe if you talk to your current man he might be able to bring the spark back cause your missing some thing cause you wouldn't be looking else were if you were getting it at home Yah know Good luck!!!
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reader, Joe  +, writes (2 January 2006):
it is a damn hard choice to make but one you WILL have to make if these feelings stay. think though when you first met your current boyfriend did you share the same connection as you seem to with this new man? IF you did and you happen to choose the new man over the boyfriend you have now what will change or is it really going to be any better, as they both are likly to be occupied with their kids and possibly work aswell.
family and friends may get shocked at the possible outcome but it your happines at steak so what ever choice you make may i wish all you the luck.
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reader, hotmama +, writes (1 January 2006):
If you feel such a strong attachment to this new man - perhaps there's something missing in your current relationship. You didn't tell your age, but I'm assuming you are a young woman. Talk to your current boyfriend. Tell him about your attachment, and take it from there. Friends and family may be "shocked" but this is your life and your future. Go for it.
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