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writes:Is thinking cheating? I had this dream last night about sleeping with my fiancée's friend, it was so hot and heavy! And now today my mind has been wandering. My friend posted a pic of himself nothing new but all of a sudden my hormones are raging. Could I be bored of having sex with the same guy for 4 years? Reply to this Question
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (8 April 2012):
 no its not cheating. your hot dream could be used as an advantage to keep your guard up when your around your fiancees friend, especially if you have a infatuation toward your fiancees friend. if you are bored with your fiancee (sex) with four years , what are you going to do for the rest of your life after being married ( to have and to hold , forsaking all others)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): here is a suggestion. maybe you you have fallen into a rut - both of you - and just need to explore some fun alternatives together?
Here are some suggestions to try -http://www.dearcupid.org/question/spicing-up-your-sex-life.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): "Is thinking cheating?"
Not really, but if it becomes a case of constantly thinking about the same other guy all the time and becomes a bit of an infatuation then that can be dangerous.
"Could I be bored of having sex with the same guy for 4 years?"
Are you bored of your sex life? That's something only you can answer.
Look it's not necessarily a bad thing to think of others from time to time in fantasies, fantasies are a safe place where we can test out other possibilities. It can be harmless and meaningless, they can also be signs that you're unhappy with your current relationship but whichever is the case that is something you must discover for yourself.
Just don't be foolish enough to tell your boyfriend about this, just figure out what it means for yourself and let it go. If it's a sign of being bored of sex then spice it up, it could just be nothing more than your mind getting off on the idea of being with this other guy, it can happen and is usually nothing major.
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reader, Abella +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Some people may say yes. I would say no.
Fantasy in your head is using your creative thinking. All good novelists are very very good of thinking out scenarios that sound great on paper - but may or may not ever happen.
Yes you may be bored but if you are thinking of being with anyone else then please have the courtesy of breaking up with your guy first.
Because the betrayal of cheating will destroy your relationship like a putrid rotting cancer even if you choose not to tell your partner.
At least by breaking up first you are showing your partner respect. And no cheating on him - if you delay approaching the other guy until you have broken up with your guy.
Alternatively your dream is a wakeup call that you need to address ome existing issues in your current relationship first
Good luck and best wishes with this
Regards
Abella
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