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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi my question is about a man I know. I can't figer out if he likes me or not, I know him from Church and he is a good bit older 40s. He is always friendly and helpful towards me and gives me little gifts now and then, such as books I might like or CD's. When we speak he always find a reason to rub my arm or my back. I wasn't at Church for a few weeks. When I walked in he grabbed me by my arms and asked me where I had been? He was doing it playfully in case that comes across that he hurt me ect. Then today he was different I had sent him an E-mail through the week just about Church issues, nothing personal and asked if he got and he said, yeah but I didn't read it and brushed me off!I admit I haven't given him anything back that I liked him back, I was too shy I guess or worried that I may be wrong. What do others think does he like me?What do I do here? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2015): Yes! He did like you but you didn't give him anything back.
Instead disappeared on him.
Then send him an E-mail and as u said,"about Church stuff"
Did you say in the E-mail why you were away? Give him a hint at all that he mattered to you?
You brushed him aside, now he's not giving you attention your now bothered?
No disrespect but you send selfish here, "he does this, he gave me that, he helped me,me,me!"
What do u do for him? No wonder he's fed up and brushing you off.
Offer to help him or do something for him for once!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (17 May 2015):
 He definitely did give you the brush off, by telling you that he didn't read it. I think that's a clear signal that he's not interested, now.
Prior to that he was indicating some interest, but he got no where with you.
Then you were away, with no explanation. So he wondered and wondered and perhaps he felt aggrieved at why you were no longer turning up regularly.
He possibly did read your message, but now wants to give you the signal that he's not interested.
He has his own agenda. Who knows what that agenda is?
Previously he saw some promise (for him) in you, so he started being extra nice.
I doubt if he finds books or CDs for multiple other members of the congregation. It was his way of reaching out to you.
But don't expect him to be so attentive in future. He may have even started being attentive towards someone else, while you were absent, who does attend more regularly.
If you are interested in him, and do like him, then perhaps you could speak to him directly and explain why you were absent, and tell him that you missed seeing him while you were away.
But if you are not interested in him then you don't need to explain your absence to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2015): If he liked you he would have asked you out, or hinted at it.
Has he?
There's your answer!
Why do women have to over think every little thing a man does, we really aren't that complicated.
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