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writes:Girlfriend told me that another guy has been touching her butt in school and she basically just lets him smack it! I feel so betrayed by this. Dnt I have the right? Is this not super disrespectful? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 December 2014):
 I agree with YouWish. Find out what's happening. Is she being bullied/sexually harassed and doesn't have the ability to deal with it?
And why isn't your beef with this guy? She's not the one smacking butts, she's the one being assaulted/groped.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 December 2014):
 What is her attitude towards the guy doing this to her?? If he's a friend and she likes it, then it's VERY disrespectful and would be close to if a girl came up and playfully grabbed your "package".
If she's uncomfortable by it and is too scared to confront him, then you should encourage her to confront him while you're standing with her. That's groping and a mild form of sexual assault. Some girls freeze and their stomach churns inside when something like that happens. Make sure you are sure which person she is.
If the touching is unwanted by her, then stand up with her. If she's flirting with him, then make sure you do not accept that kind of behavior. If she doesn't listen to you and is looking for male attention, then she can find another boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2014): Would she let a total stranger on the train slap her ass without protesting? No? Then she has no excuse for letting "friends" do it to her.
Its disrespectful to your relationship, she knows it, and she can stand up for herself to stop it.
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (9 December 2014):
OK I see it this way.
If the chap knows that your girlfriend has a boyfriend then yes he is a dickhead even more so if he knows you as a friend.
But if he doesn't know and she has a boyfriend and she has not told him. Then it is not his fault . ( but still dis-respectable )
Your girlfriend on the other hand is dating you, she should not let other blokes slap has ass ... let a lone let him carry on .
so ask her why is she letting him do it .
good luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 December 2014):
 Yepp, it's disrespectful both to you and to her. I would talk to her CALMLY (without pointing fingers) that she needs to put a stop to this, and not accept it to continue. She's young, she doesn't know what's ok and what isn't. Once you have found something YOU are not okay with, don't assume she will automatically know this. She must be told how you feel, for her to know it. So you tell her. Then, if she still lets it happen, she is showing you disrespect. But if it happened without her realizing how it made you feel, then do not be angry with her. Just tell her how it makes you feel, and if she respects your feelings she will put a stop to it. Simple as that. Just talk to her about it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 December 2014):
 Well, it's HER but. Isn't it?
If you should have all this righteous indignation then HAVE it against the boy who smacked her ass. I BET you he didn't ASK permission but she didn't tell him off, because unfortunately SOME males still think it's THEIR right to smack a girl on the ass.
Instead of being mad at her, ASK her how come she hasn't told him to stop? That it's OK for her to tell some "dude" to not touch/smack her ass.
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