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writes: I'm a 22 year old woman, and I've been with my BF for 4 1/2 years. Our sex is excellent. I'm still having trouble getting an orgasm. What should I do?
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reader, saucerfulofsecrets +, writes (3 August 2005):
A lot of woman don't use clitoral stimulation, but I find that it works wonders. If you haven't, TRY IT! If you have, then perhaps try fantasizing about a turn-on during sex. Othe than that, not too sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2005): Some women have trouble achieving orgasm, either in partner sex, or even in masturbation. If you have never had an orgasm, here are a few suggestions to get you started. If you don't feel it's anything medical the best thing you can do for yourself is to: Get turned on! Explore your erotic mind by reading sexy fiction, watching sexy movies or writing a fantasy of your own. Our brains...our thought processes...our sexual fantasies...are a big part of our sexuality. When you think real sexy..you will turn on the switch you need to help achieve orgasms. Masturbate.It teaches you how you like to be touched and what feels good. And when you dsicover this...tell your b/f how you like to be touched.
Get wild and have fun..use your imagination. Explore..try new things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2005): Everyone is different and some people can orgasm through sex and some can't. I have been sexually active since I was 16 but didn't have my first orgasm until I was 22. One thing I learnt was that I can't orgasm through sex and when guys tried orally to make me orgasm it just wouldn't work. But I got a partner that was very paitent and determined to get me to orgasm. I learnt that my problem was I wasn't relaxed. I was so concentrating on wanting to orgasm. So he managed to give me my first orgasm by me trying to relax and he would tell me if I started to tense up. After my first one I then started to experiment with myself to find out what makes me orgasm. I believe thats what you need to do. Just relax and try different things. Now I orgasm quite often and sometimes rather quickly but I still don't orgasm during sex. This may sound weird but it worked for a friend of mine, at first to make herself relax she would imagine having sex with other people or create senarios in her head that really aroused her. Now she doesn't have to as she now naturally relaxes. So relax and experiment!
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