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writes: i think someone at work fancies me but i dont fancy him and i dont want to ruin our friendship.where i work there is a group of 5people who get along really well, these 5, one of which is me, are the young people at work. we are 18-23 and get on so well. well lately ive noticed that one of the boys keeps flirting with me loads but i thought nothing of it until i heard someother people talking about him saying that they had heard he fancied someone but it was akward because she has just got back with her bf, and i think it could be me. all the other people we work with are much older and the other 2girls dont have bf's. we are all so close and i cant help but feel this could make things weird and we will stop hanging out. any advice on how to defuse the situation?
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reader, stina  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
This sort of thing has happened to me before. I told one of the friends in our group about the guy liking me and me being weirded out by it since I had a boyfriend. My friend was the one who brought up my bf several times infront of the other guy. After that, the other guy seemed okay and didn't seem to lead on that he liked me to anyone. Maybe have one of your friends bring up your boyfriend infront of this guy. Even if it's something like "What are you and Boyfriend doing tonight?" or "Boyfriend is so sweet to take you to your favorite restaurant for no reason!" Something like that. Then it doesn't really make anyone feel awkward - it just fits in like a regular conversation. Just a suggestion. :)
Lemonpixie has a good idea, too!
Take care.
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reader, Lemonpixie +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Well one way to deter a guy without hurting him is doting on about your bf. Even if it means exaggerating a little. Buy yourself a new necklace or something nice and say your bf got it and go on about how great he is in front of that guy... Don't over do it to the point where people in general get sick of hearing about it but let him know your into your bf and no one else has a chance
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