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*elika
writes:i posted a problem a while ago about how my husband had been contacting his ex partner via facebook.I decided to try again and i really have been trying and so has he to the point where we are both trying to hard!!!!. we have just spent a week together in italy, the weeks running up to our trip were tense to say the least and i was hoping the trip would make me feel differant about him, unfortunatly it didnt we didnt really argue but it was obvious we were annoying each other at times. he say's im his life and he doesnt want it to end and he is such a lovely guy that i wanted to give it another go, but i see him differently now more as my best friend than my husband. i think i know deep down that it is over, but the thought of being on my own or starting again makes me feel very down. i dont want to keep this fake relashionship going as i dont think it is fair on him, but i dont know where to even begin. i have no one to talk to as our friends say we are supposed to be together and they would be really upset to see us apart, my sister has moved abroad and my parents are recently divorced and have moved to the opposite ends of the country and i feel they dont need my problems as well.My options are so limited... any advice would be a great help.thanksmel
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reader, Manximus  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Oh hun, you really need to talk this over with him and let him know how you are feeling. He cannot do anything about it if he does not realise there is a problem.
I am not familiar with your other post about the facebook thing, but you are together now for a reason.
Maybe it would be a good idea if you got away for a while and spent some time apart. You could go to visit your parents and I am sure they would be more than willing to anything you want to get off your chest.
It seems to me like you probably take each other for granted and are losing respect for one another. But I think a temporary break from each other may help to bring you both a little closer and help you to value what you already have a little more.
Best of luck
M
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