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writes:Okay well I think maybe I'm just being paranoid but I'm not sure. I think my teacher may like me. I thought he was handsome the first day of class and I was annoyed by this because I didn't want him to distract me from learning. However, the second time I went to his class I noticed certain things about him and thought to myself, "Oh, he's gay. poor guy, I'm such a perve." This for some reason completely relieved me. BUT!The third or fourth time i went to his class he had my friend(he knows she is my friend) go to the board to write something down for our group. and there was a boy on the other side of the board writing down facts for his group (the class had been split into 2 groups) and while they were doing this the rest of the class was talking amongst themselves. Then, My friend at the board asked me to hold her book while she looked in it and wrote on the board. Of course i got up to help her because her arm was hurting from holding the book so long. Well at one point we were both looking for something in the textbook and when we could not find it our teacher came next to me to help. I felt really awkward because instead of just taking the book from me to look in it himself. He had me still hold it while he went through the pages. He was so close I could smell him, i could feel the heat from his body and he's tall so I also felt his breath on my hair. I mean seriously, there was no room between us, his arm was brushing against mine as he was reaching to turn the pages. And then he stood there next to me after he found what we were looking for until i went to go sit back down.So that's when i first felt he may like me. But thank fully he hasn't gotten that close again. However, whenever i go to class now, i feel like he stares at me. But I hate saying that because I feel like I'm saying a vain thing. At first, I would catch him staring and he would turn away but recently if i look up towards him he will just stare back for longer than i think he is suppose to and while he's staring he looks really serious, it makes me nervous. I thought maybe i did something wrong. I don't even participate in class because i just want to disappear, but i know i have to if i want a good participation grade.I asked another friend for advice about his staring. She suggested that i sit in another seat, somewhere far from my seat and see if he still stares. i thought that was a great idea because i sit in the middle of the classroom so it would make sense if just stares into the middle of the room since he lectures directly across from me. Duh! i felt like a complete ass but still -when he was standing next to me?Anyway, last class i forgot to do what my friend suggested, so i sat in my usual seat. Now, where I sit i usually have no one in front of me but i asked my friend, the same one who had gone to the board, to sit in front of me. She did and so my teacher could not see much of me since my friend has height to her. I felt a bit better and sorta protected BUT then-----my teacher moved to the podium and stayed there the whole time while he talked. We had a clear view of one another. he usually just stays in the middle of the room or at the desk in front, he rarely goes or even stays at the podium and he did the staring again. Also he is getting looser with teasing the other students as if he is trying to act cool or something. What's going on?Okay now I'll remention and mention other things.1. he tried to sit next to me the first day of class when we gathered in a circle.2. he basically hovered over me when my friend and I needed help with finding something in her book.3. i've caught him staring4. if he doesn't turn away when i look up, he looks at me not exactly seriously but like he was wondering what I'm thinking about5. it seems like he always handing back my papers first-he calls my name firstWhat do all of you think? Am i crazy? Do you think maybe he's just curious about me? Anybody in a similar situation? I only have him this semester i can't wait till it is over. I really apologize for the grammar and spelling I'm in hurry. All advice welcomed!I should mention that he maybe in his mid 20's. I'm around 18. confused girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): Hey its me- I'v been to his class and i think I was being paranoid. Thanks for the advice guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I think you are just being a little paranoid. Don't read too much into it. If he tries to make any real moves such as physically touching you, then you should seek help. Teachers have to look at their students. How wierd would it be if a Teacher looked down at the floor as s(he) said a lecture?
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (9 November 2009):
 if he's making you uncomfortable then you should tell someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): I think you are stressing way too much about this situation. Unless he makes a move that leaves no room for speculation, for example asks you out, you shouldn't worry so much. If he does something that is really inappropriate you might wanna report him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): If the others in class are noticing, that's a pretty good hint that it's inappropriate behavior.
Over the years, normal boundaries have been diminished. It's one thing if he's interested but keeps to himself, but since you're getting uncomfortable and it has an effect on your ability to work, it's serious enough to do something.
Consider having a friend mention something for him to overhear and see how he reacts. Don't try to humiliate him if he has something on his mind, but find a way to let it be known that you are aware of what he's doing and that his actions are unwelcome.
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