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writes:I have been going out with my girlfriend for more than one year.I really love her very much but something is happening to our relationship that i cannot explain.We have stayed together for the past six months.She gave me some very bad news that she finds me boring and she cannot explain the reason why.She is confused and doesn't know what she wants.The sex has been great but of late it hasn't been coming.I find it hard to find out what exactly went wrong. She works in an advertising agency and she gets to meet very many people.I respect her independence and am not the type of guy to ask my girlfriend who she has been with.I trust her and i believe trust is very important for any relationship.I don't want to loose her but something inside of me is telling me that she no longer thinks of me as her boyfriend but am just a friend.If there are any ideas of how to get this relationship back on top please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, --jack--  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 I Agree With Yummy Mummy. But you should maybe try doing some kind of experience together that you've never done before. e.g. hand glideing. So talk to each other. sometimes she might need a friend not a boy friend so just think about how you feel and tell her.
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reader, JonHD +, writes (16 July 2007):
 That is a problem, once you have entred a friend zone it can be difficult to persuade someone to feel you as more again. But it isnt impossible. May i suggest try taking her out diffrent places, such as carnivals, adventure parks, places you know she would enjoy but rarley get to go to.
Take her on a romantic evening out, it dousnt have to be rose covered floors and fireworks. But you should attempt to make it seem more special than usual. Get her a gift, something to show how much you feel for her. While this may seem like your trying to buy her it actually serves to help waken her up and help her relise how much you do love them and how lucky they are.
Avoid talking about how she feels about you as much as possible since it is a major mood killer. Just spend the time talking, and make sure to always look into her eyes and tell her shes looking beautiful. Much like how you would act on a first date with a girl you have been infatuated with for a long time. Hold her hand and make sure she remembers the night.
You care for her a great deal from what i can tell so fight for her, shes worth the struggle.
Take Care
Jon
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 July 2007):
 You need to sit down and chat with your girlfriend about why she thinks you're boring and what you both can do to make this relationship work. It's going to take both of you to work through what ever the problems are right now. Ask her if she wants to be with you.
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