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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I think my friend may have feelings for me, in spite of being attracted to men. We've been good friends for several years, but during the past year or two we've become even closer, and I've started to get the vibe that he might have feelings for me. At first I dismissed it, but there have been several moments where it seemed like it was more than just my imagination. Another friend also thinks there may be something more than platonic feelings on his part.We often have deep discussions about the future and what could hypothetically be, but usually in a very general way. Lately it's become more specific and personal, and includes future relationships and children. There have been a few times in which he's stated if he were straight, he wouldn't hesitate to date me.I'm hesitant to ask because it might make things between us awkward, even if my suspicions are right. Is there a way to find out for certain without directly asking?I'm also very confused about how I feel about him as well. Although I'm not opposed to a relationship, I'm not sure it's worth risking such an amazing friendship. At the same time, I wonder if I would be missing out on something really great. Advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, raiders +, writes (14 June 2010):
 He loves you as a person does not mean he desires you. It normal for a man to imagine his future married with children. If he has not said anything to you than I would not read to much into this, could it be that you yourself is finding him as something more than just a friend.
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