| A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I think my dad has a problem with alcohol. Ever since I was a teenager (when i first really took any notice) he's been drinking almost every night. Some nights its only one or two drinks, but others (especially weekends) its much, much more. He smokes too, and when ever i've mentioned quitting both, he says 'I work all day, I need some relief, it makes me happy.'I moved out from my parents home when I was 20, and I had been desperate to since I was about 15 because we had so many rows when my Dad had the drink in him. I used to think it was a personality clash, or me just growing up, but now looking back, I know it was down to alcohol. He's lost weight over the past 3 years - through dieting but I think he looks like a typical alcoholic now - you know, thin and wrinkly skin.The worst thing is, my first baby is on the way, and I am worried about what it'll be like once the baby comes along. I don't trust him to have the baby in his presence when he's had a drink and I know he won't stop. I can't even talk about it because he doesn't take it seriously. I'm scared it will cause arguments when the baby is here. Just the other night, he made up this stupid rhyme about how he's going to 'wet the baby's head' (ie have a drink) then he carried on saying he's going to 'drown the baby' (meaning get totally sloshed)I can't take much more. I don't know what to do. I keep thinking he's shortening his life by doing this, he doesn't look healthy and I know he isn't.Please helpx
View related questions:
alcoholic, moved out, smokes Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Contact "Alcoholics Anonymous", they have branches all around the world. They have special groups for families of alcoholics and children with alcoholic parents, they will be there to support you and help you deal with your father. Your not alone, so get some support from people who face the same problems you do.
To the young British teen, here is the details of the UK branch of Al-teen, specially for teenagers. http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/alateen/index.asp. You can also contact childline, they provide support and advice with many of the problems that you are facing. http://www.childline. Don't be scared or ashamed, they are there to help.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): hi,
i have this problem too. but its my mum and my ded that are alcoholics. i have an argument with my mum everyday because when she starts drinking thats all she wants to do. i cry myself to sleep a lot because i feel i cant cope anymore.
im sorry but i dont realy have advise because thats what im looking for myself but sometimes it just comes down to being strong. and for myself its comforting (if thats the right word) to know that theres is somebody else out there who understands what im going through. xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, xxRebeccaxx  +, writes (20 January 2009):
Heya!Omg I have the same problem too!!! I'm 14 and my dad drinks 4 cans every night!!! and he smokes too! He is 43 and I keep telling him that it's not good for him at all and I always mention to my mum diseases that people can get from drinking, and I mention them so my dad can hear! I've been trying to make him understand for years but he wont listen to me. Sometimes I cry at night because I'm so scared of him dying. And when I tell him this he just says, oh it's my life and I can't help but thinking, yeah but have you realised that you have family who care about you and don't want you to die?? Anyway he doesen't listen and there is not much we can do!! Just keep trying, that's all I'm gonna do! Message me back and we can talk.x
...............................
|
