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writes:I have a crush on this guy ( let’s call him K ) We used to study in the same class. I went to another class now so we don’t see each other often. Back when we were in the same class, he used to talk to me and tease me a lot. I think he liked me, but he never confess his love to me. About a month ago, I was talking to this girl who is currently studying in the same class with him.We haven’t been talking to each other for a few months. We accidentally met each other during the break time so we had a chat, we were talking about random stuffs. But then i started to open up more about personal things of me, therefore I randomly said “It’s funny you know. K used to tease me a lot. I think he used to like me” I said it in a funny way and thought her reaction would be like “Yeah yeah haha” but instead she was quite shocked. I didn’t know why she reacted like that. I thought everyone knows that. After saw her reaction, I realized I was so stupid for saying that. After that day, I started to notice something strange about my crush. He never said hi to me and waved at me when we met anymore. He started to ignore me and even avoided me when he saw me. He was so cold toward me, I fell really sad and I think that that girl has told him about what I said. Maybe he think I’m so weird, that’s why he avoid me. Today i met him again at the canteen, he always sat next to me but now he kept a distance between us when he sat down. I fell very awful. I just want us to be normal like the old days. I think it’s my fault. I should have never revealed my secret out.Do you guys think I should ask that girl if she told him about that? Do you think I should talk to him?
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reader, malvern  +, writes (3 December 2018):
 He was just being friendly with you, and possibly flirty, but to him it was nothing more than that because he obviously doesn't want a relationship. Don't be knocked back by this, it happens to us all at some time or another. Not everybody we fancy will fancy us in return. Don't say anything more to your friend, pick yourself up and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2018): It's possible he likes you; but isn't romantically-attracted to you.
Some guys get freaked when they think a girl has a crush; and he's not sure how to let her know he doesn't return the sentiments. It's rejection, and some girls get totally crushed and embarrassed. It can be pretty dramatic. If you've told anayone, he thinks you're trying to lay claims on him.
Just shrug it all off and try to act less attentive when you happen to see him.
He's overreacting, and really should chill-out! Best to just roll your eyes when he acts like a knucklehead. Okay, you get it, he's not interested! Sheesh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2018): He is probably embarrassed and doesn't want to bring attention to himself by interacting with you. He may well then become the subject of gossip.
It sounds as if this is not something he can deal with or something he wants, so I think you are going to have to let this one go. Console yourself with the probability that he still likes you as much as he did, but that he is not prepared to expose himself to gossip. Gossip that you inadvertently started by confiding in someone who has gone straight to him and told him what you said.
Embarrassment is his issue now, not the fact that he doesn't like you.
No point in trying to do anything about it. Move on. Maybe one day, when this has all passed on by, he will chat with you again, but leave well alone for now.
Good luck
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 November 2018):
 Nope, don't ask her and remember that you CAN NOT trust someone you don't know well with personal info like that.
SHE might like him too and used the info to make HIM think you are full of yourself.
As for him, keep being polite but try not to put yourself in his path or where he sits. Play it cool.
IF she told him what you told her, he might feel awkward around you. She might have said something else to him that makes him not want to interact with you and even if you ASK her... I doubt she will be honest and tell you.
So play it cool and remember this girl is NOT your friend and the guy... might not be as interested as you think.
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