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writes:I feel a bit taken for granted with my boyfriend, I have bought him presents and paid for dinner out etc and while I'm a generous person what really upset me was he bought a big box of chocolates for his team at work, just to get them motivated and appreciated...when he told me this my heart sank because he doesn't do that with me....am I being unreasonable to feel annoyed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2015): He bought those chocolates to get something back. If his team feel appreciated they will put more effort in and he will see rewards too. It's not so much that he cares more about them than you its that he will also benefit from it in work. While it does make you feel under appreciated try and think think he's trying to get something out of it workwise by doing that for them.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (8 October 2015):
 Hon, stop buying gifts and paying for dinner.
If he makes the suggestion for dinner out - ask him if he's paying because you don't have any money. If he doesn't want to pay, well sorry to say, but hes taking advantage of you.
What will happen then if your money runs out??
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reader, Denizen +, writes (8 October 2015):
 Is more than just the chocolates and the fact that your giving isn't reciprocated? Some people just don't think it's necessary to have an outward show of their affection.
I think you will know if you are loved.
It's not clear if you live together or just see each other now and them. If you feel your generosity is being taken advantage of then the answer is in you hands - but don't be envious of his team at work. That's too silly.
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