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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now and he tells me he loves me and how he wants to settle down with me, have kids ect.. but I still have that feeling he is seeing someone else..He is very secretive and won't let me near his phone, he will even take it to the toilet with him. When we're with his friends and one of them starts to say something that has happened, around me, everyone tells them to shhh in case something is let slip in front of me, he can even seem distant but every time I confront him he denys it.It also upsets me that all girls fancy him and although they know he has a girlfriend, nothing will ever stop them trying. I'm so scared of getting hurt I don't know what to do??
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 November 2008):
KSnider is right, any man who says he wants to settle down with you should not be getting his mates to shut up in case one of them says something.
I think you are within your rights to demand an explanation next time he asks his friends to shut up. Ask him why he takes his phone to the loo.
Don't sit and take it. Tell him that you have no intention of marrying anyone who keeps so many secrets.
I think he probably does have something to hide so prepare yourself for the worst. Keep telling yourself that you deserve better.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, KSnider  +, writes (17 November 2008):
Well first of all if he is really ready to settle down and start a life with you there should be NO secrets. Tell him to give you his phone and look through it. But if he still seems protective over the phone most likely he is hiding something from you. Women are very good at sensing things.. so your thoughts are prob. accurate. As for what is going on around his friends... sounds like the guy has alot to fill you in on or you need to move on before you do end up with a broken heart... and hopefully he isnt sleeping around because that puts you at risk for STDs. You should def. sit him down and talk to him.. if you dont feel good about the end results end things with him.Hope this helps!
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