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writes:Hi, so me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years, and last week he announced he would be taking us on a "break" together somewhere really nice that I'd never guess...He also asked my opinion on a "ring" says that his work collegue gets many of them because of her "jeweller" husband and insisted it was not an engagement ring...He says my present cost alot and wiped his months wages and that I will love it.My question is, do u aunts think he's going to ask me to marry him?It's the only thing I can't think of because he doesn't usually want to go away or do anything fancy.I don't feel ready to get engaged or married, our relationship hasn't been the best lately and we don't seem to have much passion at the moment... We argue alot, never get to see each other and we have low libidos and we both work alot. If he asked me, . I don't want to say no because I might really upset him, but if I say yes, I might not feel ready for it...I can see myself with him for life, but just not at the moment with my work life and family life being so hectic.HAs anyone else been in this situation and can offer me advice? ? It could be something totally different and might not even be engagement but I want to be prepared, it's such a big step for me to take at 21. He is 27.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 July 2013):
 You have been together for 5 years and you still don't know if you want to marry him? Personally I think after 5 years you know if he is a keeper or not.
Have a time-line for the two of you, if you are NOT ready to get married at 21 (nothing wrong in that) tell him I want to do XYZ or hit 25 (or whatever age you have in mind) first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): well, ask yourself what difference would it make to be engaged?
engagment doesn't mean immediate marriage, if you see yourself with him for life.... then you see yourself with him for life.
How can you possibly say but "not right now"
do you plan to break up for a few years then get back together? no? then what difference would it make to be engaged now or not... this seems silly, you should probably say no to spare him the indecisiveness you apparently suffer with
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 July 2013):
 If'n he pops the question to you ("Will you marry me?") you are under no obligation to say "yes"....
Good luck...
P.S. Don't ask me about that funny time when a guy asked his G/F this whilest he was on the "Jumbo-tron", during the 7th inning stretch, at a sizeable baseball stadium, and she said "Hell, no"... and stormed out....
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