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writes:together since 14 and now 37 our relationship has been through A Lott. But we have got to a bad situation of tiredness, children,Debt,work and stress(like everyone). I have always been sexually adventuress and pushy.Obviously my wife and i are not on the same wavelength sexually as i use sex as an escape from stress and she needs to be stress less to enjoy sex.When i get sex i go a bit mad and push the boundaries beyond her enjoyment( she tells me she hates and is disgusted by them, which i can see why). I am obviously not meeting her emotional needs although i tell her she is a goddess and do all the cooking and most of the cleaning ( to alleviate her tiredness and stress) but i dont know how to make things better! i feel i dont have the time or energy to sit cuddling and whatever else she is missing.....recently she has been getting attention from a new friends husbsnd(just mates apparently)but she told me they kissed whilst we all went camping trip with tongues(and whatever else she didnt tell me) The sad thin is that night we had the hottest sex ever!! obviously(not knowing at the time) she was hot for him at the time.unfortunately my deviant side likes the fact she is getting hot about someone else and we have (whilst having sex) talked about threesomes. I know this is the worst thing for our relationship but it makes for hot sex, what is what im after with her.I just want her back on side. The other guy is a mate and i know his wife is holding out on him and i just feel he is being over nice to my wife due to this.Because sex inst a given between them, she finds the niceness nonthreatening where my niceness always has a alternative sexual motive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Yes I think time out away from everything just you and her will make the difference and take it easy be a Romeo dont get upset with her positive thinking and full of smiles show her you care and a bit of TLC she will most likely come out of it. We all get into a relationshiip and thinking of others or get to cheat its not good but hope it all works well Tony cheers...
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reader, UKconfused +, writes (19 July 2009):
UKconfused is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the ideas, I think a vacation would be a good idea and it will get me away from my usual access to kinky stuff and also give my wife a chance to forget about hum drum housework and kid stuff. Will keep updating as things progress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): maybe a nice vacation would do u guys some good.
it doesnt have to be expensive or fancy just a little get away from the world where u guys can drink champagne and talk about when u were teens u kno regain the sparx that are still there but just need a little push to get them going again =]
im sure if u spice things up a little bit for ur wife she will feel more of that hotness for u lol
i wish u the best
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