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writes:Now i'm 16 and his 20. I have no clue what to do i think i'm pregnant by him which cause a problem cuz we're not suppose to be around each other. that's my mother's doing. Reply to this Question
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (17 April 2009):
 What was the reason for you not being allowed around this guy, was in just an age thing or something more sinister?As the last poster said, you are NOT stupid nor are you silly AT ALL and please don't think that you are.Ok, so you broke the rules, not such a good idea, but what is done is done and you have to take a pregnancy test as your first step before you worry yourself sick over it in case its nothing...you can buy them at the dollar store for cheap or you can even get a free test at a local CONFIDENTIAL clinic if you cannot afford it.No one will need to know about it if you are not pregnant - in which case perhaps take the curent situation as an impersonal warning and perhaps if you really really cannot avoid this man go and se your doctor, again, confidentially, and talk to him about taking the pill AND start using condoms to avoid putting yourself through this angst a second time.If you ARE pregnant, you do need to sit down with the guy, tell him what is going on, tell him how you feel about it and ask him how he feels about it. Then, without the guy, sit down with your mum and tell he that you are pregnant, tell he you know that you've made a mistake and that you are sorry for disrespecting her rules and regulations and let her talk - she will be angry with you, disappointed, sure, but she will also be angry with herself for not being able to prevent the situation from happening and may even blame her self for trying to keep you apart inevitably pushing you together...whatever she feels and says you should respect and understand as it will be a very emotional encounter for both of you. If she cares about you, and loves you, which she must for keeping you from this man in the first instance, she will support you, and things will be ok, they will work out fine, but it is going to take some time and you will have to bare that cross until that time has passed enough for her to be accepting of the situation.Now, forgive me if i am way off, but because you didnt specify the reason for not being allowed to see this guy, i have assumed it is not a legal reason - however, if you have been forbidden by law from seeing this guy because your mother has taken steps to make this so, then you are going to have to tread very, very, carefully because if it is a legal issue and you've been forced by law to stay away from him and him from you then he may be taken to court and prosecuted for breaching that condition.In a similar vein, i dont know what the laws are in your state for sex and at what age it is legal and so if you were having sex with this man at 15 and it was illegal, you may be getting him in a hell of a lot of trouble for having sex with someone underage and this can carry a severe penalty. Even though you are 16 now.Please go and take the pregnancy test today, don't worry until you get a positive test. Good luckxx
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reader, samjayne775  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Look, you are NOT silly or stupid. Ok, the possibility of being pregnant at your age wasnt the best idea, but its done now. You need to take a test and find out if you are or not. If you are, dont try to hide it from him OR your mum. Speak to him first and find out how he feels about it. Then without him there, sit your mum down and explain to her the situation. If your mum loves you, ok she will be angry that you ignored her by being with him and probably even angrier that you are pregnant but she should support you. If you love him, she should try to understand that, the same way you should try to understand why she doesnt want you near him (which i dont know at this point). I hope this helps. Try to be careful and be safe in the future. Good Luck xxx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Well now we see why your mother doesn't let you two hang out!
Take a test if you are pregnant tell your Mum and face the music!
Silly Girl! Respect your Mum in future!
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