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*hinkiminlove
writes:Hi everyone and anyone in particular anyone who could pleeeease give me some advice. I'm a 30 something male who i believe is desparatly in love,i mean the real deal!Let me explain..about 2 years ago,i met a girl at work and from the moment we spoke,i felt something straight away..i was like wow!Shes amazing..at the time i was currently in a relationship and cared for my partner greatly,but not loved. Anyway i started to chat and to get to know this girl at work and over the two years we got to know each other better. Which brings me up to when me and my girlfriend split partly i think because my feelings were elsewhere with this girl i work with.Me and the girl from work carried on getting to know each other until the day came where i told her that i liked her. She said she sort of knew anyway but did't feel the same way. But would like us to spend more time together as friends,going out,getting to know each other more etc,etc.It eventually came about that she told me she did't want to hang out but still stay in contact because it made her feel awkward and it may not be fair on me because my feelings would become stronger for her. I understood this and tried to move on but i can't,i cant seem to get her out of my head. But anyway since that conversasion and a brief break of seeing eachother we have become more close than ever,spending even more time together. We are always in touch now or upto something nearly every day and its so difficult,heart breaking even. Sometimes i get the feeling she likes me but sometimes i'm not so sure..I'm really confused about it all..i mean how does she feel about me?She said she only wanted to be friends and now we are closer than ever! if i'm honest if i can't be with her i'd rather be single. Shes amazing!!Can anyone give me some advice?It would be greatly apprieciated
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Well either your really great mates who love spending time with each other and because you like her you could be taking it out of context.on the other hand she may really like you after spending more time getting to know you their is no real answer we can give you is a guess.. at the end of the day hun as i say you take chance ask her how she feels, or bite your tongue and forget your feelings and continue the friendship.. hope that helps aphexy xx
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reader, Thinkiminlove +, writes (28 July 2008):
Thinkiminlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk,guys well this is an update on the question and help i asked for..and what a confusing weekend its been emotionally!well as i explained, me and this friend from work went away this weekend staying in the same room and whatever..all weekend,we've got along like a house on fire,laughed,joked,talked,flirted,eye contact,play fighting the whole thing. We r going out again this week,and shes even staying over at mine for 3 days. I mean what the hell, can anyone tell me whats going on here? remember she said she does't like me,just wants to be friends..but this is crazy,i like her more than ever..sorry guys if this message seems abit sketchy but its late,i'm tired and i can't sleep because of this...more help and advice would be fab:)Thanks again in advance:)
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (24 July 2008):
you can ask her out right whats going on but if you want to keep a relationship then be on tip toes.. shes maybe just jealous your attention is diverted else where..either way you have choices to make.. she said she ddnt want anything what makes you think anything has changed ? you either ask or you dont, i know its easier said than done... keep it friendship or push the boat.. hope that helps aphex xx
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reader, Thinkiminlove +, writes (24 July 2008):
Thinkiminlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice,its nice to have someone to talk to about these things,i speak to friends about it but its nice to get an outside opinion.
You know i wanted to add to my original question,this girl from work has wanted to hang out more since another girl at work has showed interest in me..its kinda weird cus we all work in the same room. But what do you make of this.me and this girl,the girl i work with,who i like,potientially love are going away for a long weekend together,staying at the same hotel even in the same room..i mean its like torture for me....any more advice would be greatly apprieciated:)
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (24 July 2008):
you can ask her again if she likes you more than a friend but i dunno it seems it may or may not jeopardise your friendship.. she told you to take space meaning she wasnt interested and liked you as a friend she may feel now that you are her best friend but may want to keep it that way i see it as you are on thin ice..you can ask her or take a step away but either way unless she wants more its not looking good for you..you have to make a discion and be prepared for the outcome..im sorry i couldnt be more helpful lots of luck and happiness to you aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): I know how you feel, I have fallen for my boss and I can't keep away from him and my feelings get stronger every second of the day (unfortunately he doesn't know how i feel) Too be honest with you, this girl sounds like shes messing with you and while your working together thats not good. Some woman like to know that people fancy them because they get power from it. I know this will be hard but you need to get your head straight and away from this girl before she hurts you big time.
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