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writes:hi,i am a 14 nearly 15 year old girl and i have fallen in love with my brothers friend. my brother is nearly 5 years older than myself and his friend is just over 4 years older. as soon as i met him i liked him and tried for months to bury my feelings. then i saw him again when my brother came home from uni and i thought he liked me too. he kept glancing at me from accross the room. i added him on a friending site and recently we have been talking. for a week or so we were really close i even went to see him at work and he didnt seem to mind. then i think my brother found out that i was friends with him and all of a sudden he stopped coming online and talking to me. i sent him an email and he has replied but it was a very brief reply. i've heard nothing since and i am waiting for him to contact me to see if he really likes me but its been a week since i emailed him. I'm trying to stop thinking about him and i have exams coming up. i dont know how he feels and i cant be so forward because i am younger than him. i know i'm young but i think i've found my soul mate too early in life. we have so much in common and i know my brother would hate me for it. i thought he liked me but i dont know anymore... i cant eat or sleep and i've lost a lot of weight. Should i confront him about my feelings or bury them and try to never contact him or see him again for the sake of my exams and for my health and sanity? but i cant imagen not living without him in my life. If only i had met him later in my life..... what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): I know exactly how you feel! I'm having the same exact problem right now. My brother's best friend is so nice and sweet, but I'm so afraid to say anything to Adam*. My brother has known for the longest time that I've liked his friend and says he doesn't mind. I'm still nervous to be around Adam. The other downside of me liking him is he is older and going to college soon. I think Adam likes me but like I said I'm just to shy to say anything and I know Adam is just as shy. I just wanted to tell you I know how you feel. :/
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reader, Lizzie-Beth +, writes (4 June 2010):
Lizzie-Beth is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for replying. my brother has just come home from uni today. he might be inviting his friends round (hopefully). but if he doesnt invite HIM round then i'm going to contact him once my brother has returned to uni for the last couple of weeks. i'll go from there with what happens.
thank you all again you were so much help because i didnt know who else to talk to about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): you can't help falling in love; if it is love. I call it 'kid love' because it's not exactly like your going to get married ect... but I like my cousins friend and my cousin wouldn't mind really. I see where your brother is coming from because his friend might use him to see you- but I would think that your brother and his friend aren't going to be in eachothers lives forever; whereas if your in love, then you do stay with eachother for a long time. why don't you try talking to them both privatley about it? and ask him if you really mean anything to him. i'm sure you would know what to do off his answer. good luck:-)
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Firstly, I think your brother is over-reacting. Maybe he is worried about you stealing his friend. However he shouldn't have reacted like that.
Secondly, if you date this guy, he's gonna need to be able to wait until you are legal before you can have sex. And he probably won't want to as an 18 year old boy. However it is not impossible, I know an 18 and 19 year old couple who have been together for over a year without having sex.
His not communicating with you could mean three things - either he is not interested and that's why he's not talking, or he's worried about what your brother would do. But even then he still would probably text you. Maybe he wants to communicate with you but doesn't know what to say, in which case you should see him in person.
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