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writes:I've never been one for relationships and mushy stuff, but I met a guy who made me want that. We've been together about 5 months and I think Im falling in love with him. But we're so young (both only just 18) and I feel so overwhelmed with my emotions for him and it scares me so much that I'm considering breaking up with him because I can't handle these strong feelings. And what if he doesnt feel the same way? What should I do? I don't want to sacrafice my happiness, but I don't want it to end in heart break. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): As a guy who fell in love with his fiance almost immediately, I can tell you that it is very possible that he feels the same way about you as you feel for him. On the flip side, as a man, I can't quite grasp your emotions in terms of how these newfound feelings are affecting you, or why you would want to end what (based on your question/comments) is a wonderful relationship.My advice to you would be to stay with him and give in to the power of love (corny, I know). This may sound scary to you, but that's what love is. The anxiety of knowing how you feel, wondering how the other feels, wanting to make them happy, and not sure how they'll feel about this or that. It's a tough thing in the beginning, but if you turn tail and run from it, you may be running from the best moments of your life. I won't lie to you and say it won't end in heartbreak, but if you live your life constantly worrying about the possibility of something going wrong, you'll always be miserable. Talk to him about your feelings, but don't stifle your own due to fear.Like Karlos said, however, if you're not one for commitment, this is something to discuss with him and make your decision based on that WITH HIM. This may seem like an issue for you alone, but honestly, thinking about leaving him for weeks or months then deciding to leave him out of the blue (it will seem that way to him no matter how you try to word it or even if you say you've been thinking about it for a long time) will cause him the same anguish and confusion you're currently going through if not worse. Good luck.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (1 November 2012):
 You want to break up with someone because you've fallen in love with them? Isn't that the whole point of it all?!!!
Don't be scared. Tell him how you feel and how uneasy it makes you feel and see what he says. Take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Its natural to feel nervous and a bit scared when entering your first serious relationship. You don't know what to expect, and nobody knows where it will lead or end, but you should just enjoy what's happening and stop worrying so much about it. I'm sure he feels the same for you, he's been in this relationship with you for let's say five months, you haven't mentioned any problems with the relationship, so I would imagine he considers this a long term thing. Just talk to him about how you feel, its him who needs to know, and I wouldn't consider throwing this away, certainly not until you have spoken to him about this and see what happens from there.
If you're not the committed type of person naturally however, and you would prefer casual relationships rather than serious ones, then this is something you need to think deeply about and decide on.
If its just nerves then speak with him about how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Relax! You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. He makes you happy and that all is that matters, live in the moment, enjoy your time together. Make sure you keep your family, friends and interests nurtured and as much as he is a good part of your life, don,t make him the whole of it. enjoy being happy.
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