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writes:I have been broken up with my ex for over 2 yrs. We are both in other relationships but my problem is that I'm still in love with her. We were together for 8 years. We had an up and down relationship but were always deeply in love. We had a connection I have never felt with anybody else. My problem is I'm with a great girl now whom I care deeply about but just don't know if I can love someone else when my heart is still with my ex. She has been overseas for 2 years and comes back in 2 weeks. We have kept in touch here and there while she was gone and she wants to get together for a drink when she comes home. What should I do?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Advice stil stays the same, and I'll add that if you go out with your ex knowing she has a boyfriend overseas then you're opening a can of worms. Who's to say she won't toss you aside when she goes back to be with her boyfriend?
Your ex is unattainable due to the fact she's overseas with her boyfriend. She's being really inviting and giving you some false hope. No wonder your mind is wandering to her.
I still say break up with your girlfriend and now given these details about your ex looks like all you're going to get from her is a hook up..her cheating on her boyfriend with you. Dangerous waters you're in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Hi sorry if you have misunderstood. My ex is overseas and my current girlfriend is here where I live. It's my ex who wants to go out for a drink when she comes back. Like I said my ex is with someone overseas She comes back in a few days and her bf is overseas for another 6 months When we chatted online the other day she told me she had a dream about me.
Hopefully this makes my situation a little more clear
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 October 2010):
Break up with the girl who is overseas. One, because you can't handle a LDR and because you still have feelings for your ex it isn't fair to string this girl along due to the fact you're not into her 100%. Going to be a crappy way to break up with her, I'm thinking you should have told her how you felt sooner...but nonetheless it's better than dragging her along. Or, you could wait till she comes home and see how things go between you two. Possibly due to the lack of interaction, that maybe why your mind is wandering to your ex. However, even if you tried this I'm thinking your feelings won't go away..and you're still not cut out for a LDR, because I'm sure she has to go back.
Now what about your ex? Does she harbor these same feelings, or want to rekindle what you had? Bottom line, break up with your girlfriend and find out if your ex feels the same way. You could be alone in your feelings..
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