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writes:I might have sexual aversion, I think it is called and has anyone got any advice. I have panic attacks when he tries to have sex.It's been like this for a while now. Since he cheated on me. How long will my man put up with this before he might want to cheat again, maybe. What will it be doing to him if I can't have sex with him now. What would he be thinking about me. I asked if I should get some help but he says it is okay? Is it? Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): I can understand how you feel, I am in a similar situation.It for me seems to be the trauma of the infidelity which I went through with my husband.What I would suggest you do is talk to your man, all the time, to let him know this is also troubling you. Like others have said, the internet has some good information.All the best, know what your going through. Check out the information available to at least try and understand what is going on in your mind at the moment.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Thank you very much - can it be fixed though?
I am not thinking nasty about him but it is just awful now.
I will google thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): This is a reaction to deep, psychological trauma as Collaroy suggests. In your mind, he's now not the same loving husband you once knew, in your mind. In fact, he repulses you because of the pain he caused you. I suggest you google 'sexual aversion' and learn more about it. A referral from your doctor to see a sexologist...might help you.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Hi,
It sounds like you havent gotten over the pyschological scars of your partner cheating on you. This is causing you problems in being intimate with the man who you thought was yours only. The fact that you think he will just run off and cheat again is a worrying sign. If he was a truly loving partner committed to you these thoughts wouldnt even enter your head.
If his cheating issues were not resolved last time (what assurances did he give you that he will never do this again?), chances are if he is not cheating on you now he will soon.
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