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writes:i like my friend but shes straight.i like one of my friends, we have become really close i am bi. but no one knows that im bi i started to have strong feelings for this friend for about a year. i think its love because i cant stop thinking about her i get jealous a lot when shes talking about how this guy is cute or that one. but i get mixed feelings because i think she likes me too i have known her for less than 2 years but she has gotten really close to me we hang out and talk on the phone. i know she talks to me the most out of all her friends she mostly talks to me about everything but i found out that she had a relationship with this one guy all of our friends new but me. i found out by my other friends about him and how he was total crap. she never mentioned a word to me about him though i found that to be weird. i have notice she is very touchy with me and not with our other friends it seems like shes more comfortable with me but im not her best friend. she hasnt talked about liking a guy to me and rarely talks about them i have notice that she looks at me a lot and has strong eye contact. one of my friends use to tell me that in class she would talk a lot about me and stuff. but i just dont know if she likes me its killing me i want to tell her how i feel but i dont know how she will react. i just dont know what do my question is how do you know when one of your friends likes you but everyone knows shes officially straight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Hi, you said that everyone knows shes officially straight right? But didn't you also say that no one knows you're bi either? Maybe she is bi too, just that no one knows it. The only scary thing that could go wrong if you tell your friend how you feel is that if she is 'officially straight' your friendship may not be the same again. But if she is bi, than I feel that you have a pretty good chance at winning her heart. Since you also said it's killing you, and trust me I KNOW how that feels, the best thing to be seems to just let it out and tell her.
Or, (I know this sounds like primary school... but) get a trusting friend to go around and ask her for you. Tell this trusting friend to say something like "so you guys seem really close." Or like have her make it joking and ask strait forward. If she's into you, and feels the same way, she'll probably come to you and tell you her self. This is a good way, if you choose to tell her, and don't want to loose her as your close friend. Because if she comes to you later, and asks you if 'your trusting friend' was joking or not, or asks what the hell was that all about, you can always laugh it off and say she's just kidding. (But thank your trusting friend later.)
Perhaps there's no rush either. I mean, it's nice to know right away, but are you definitely sure about your feelings too? If so, I say go for it:)
Good luck!
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reader, sam_14  +, writes (28 September 2007):
hi. i am in the exact situation. Literally every word u wrote down is my situation in a nutshell. The thing thats hard with girls is, some are just really open and touchy and flirty with everything...girls, guys, animals, vegetables, minereals...and so it can be hard to distinguish between friendship, or whether or not she is trying to tell u something more. When i asked others about my situation...which is again exactly like yours...they said that it was a definite sign that she likes me. But honestly, the only thing u can do is just u know, step up the flirting. My friend always said she loved me, and i started saying it back to her, and now not a conversation goes by without us saying we love eachother like at the very least 5 times. Try to discretely bring up the topic of bi's lesbians and gay's...see how she responds. My friend says she is completely ok with it, and she'll often joke around and call me gay and such, and i'll do it right back to her. But no one will say "i'm joking" or deny it, we just sort of laugh it off. So try those out, and let us know. Try and take things slow though,i have only known my friend for about 4 months so that's what i am doing. But things definately seem to be progressing because she opens up to me about everything, and now im starting to do that with her more and more, and maybe eventually i'll be able to tell her, or she'll give off a huuuge hint or tell me herself...it can happen with u too. If u want u can always PM me.
Good luck with ur situation :)
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