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writes: Whenever I have sex I COME within 2-5min (first time was 20min after that it was 2-5min). :( I know this sucks real bad and I want to know what I can do to longer my time while having sex with my GF. I do everything else with her and she is pleased with all of that. I don't have a problem when I am getting head or masturbating. It only happens when I am having SEX. Please help me out. My GF and I would love to hear some advise. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): from everything i've heard, 2-5 minutes is normal. i seriously couldn't go with a guy who lasted 20 minutes. i'd be worn out and to be honest, quite a bit sore. lotsa guys think they're doing all the work, but it's not all cake to us girls either.
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reader, pall4all +, writes (2 November 2005):
again the common problem men have, simply give up smoking (if you smoke), get exercise daily( out door for fresh air),drink alot of water or juices(four to six liters),rest your body and give up sex from your mind for three weeks you will find great change and then start pc muscule exercise for a week then slowly and gradually get sex from new but must give the rest to your body for two days from sex. it is better to give rest for a week (if you can) as you get your self perfact then try it as you want, remamber we are human and we need rest to get rid of weakness. Have fun and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2005): Plan when you are going to have sex (OK not every time, but just to help the problem), masturbate and ejaculate, then, play around, lots of foreplay, what you/she enjoys and it will take some time before you are able to ejaculate again. It will take the pressure off so to speak, and reduce the urgency for you.
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reader, sigga dögg +, writes (27 October 2005):
As a psychology student I have been learning about this problem of yours and let me assure you it is quite common.
You can do 2 things:
*Start-stop method:
Masturbate until you are almost ready to come and then stop and wait until he goes limp, then start again. Repeat this method for at least 20 minutes and for a few days. You should notice a difference. Pay attention on what your thoughts are while masterbating. Try to focus on the act it self and enjoying it, not solemnly to get an orgasm. This excersice is best you do alone, it might be difficult with a partner, but you can give it a go.
*This one is a little more difficult but has been succesive and is used in sex therapies.
1. Sit across from each other, naked, and stroke each other except for genital area or breasts. Talk about how the stroking feels. This should be done for at least 3 nights. (I know not having sex is difficult but it will be worth it)
2. Arouse and touch your partners genital areas without her touching yours. Communicate on how the feelings are. Let her have an orgasm. (still no penetration)
3. Let her stroke your penis slowly, stopping before your are about to have an orgasm, she will then stop until he is limp and then start again. The point of this should not be your orgasm but rather enjoying the feeling of her touch and telling her this.
4. She will sit on top of you and you will penetrate her. She will not move at all. You will talk to each other about how this feels. If your are about to orgasm ask her to move and lay beside you motionless. When the feeling has passed you by, she can mount you again. This exercise should take about 20 minutes.
5. She is on top and she moves very slowly. Here it is ok (finally!) to have an orgasm but try to enjoy how you are feeling and tell her this.
These excersices take time, believe you me -I know- but they are well worth it.
I also found that it depends a lot on the way you masterbate. If you are in a hurry and just want to orgasm, why should your body not think that when you are having sex?
Make sure you and your girlfriend have a good and open communication about what you like to do to each other and what you like to be done.
Have fun training :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2005): Work on your PC muscles. When you go to pee, squeeze and stop the flow. Work on squeezing those muscles everyday. That should help control the ejaculation. Try not to think or worry about sex too much. With more practice, you two will learn how to make it work. If too much stimulation is involved, they have desentisizing (sp off i know) gel or you can use a condom to help lessen stimulation. Practice and good luck.
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reader, Chado_Neyna +, writes (26 October 2005):
actually there is something you can do its an exercise using a tea towel when you get an erection place a slightly damp tea towel at the base and flex the apropriate muscles to lift the towel do this a few times a week once its easy to do just move the towel further forward it will strengthen the penis & prolong the orgasm
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