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writes:I think I like women. I masturbate to them. I find them attractive. I feel like I understand them better. How do I tell my boyfriend that in the nicest way possible?
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reader, everlastingarms +, writes (29 June 2013):
(I am the user who posted this question, some how I can't access my original account) Anyways, thanks everyone for the advice. I see what you mean now, it is just selfish to say I want to take a break, no one should be expected to wait for you. And janniepeg, as far as exploring my sexuality you can be a week into a relationship or 6 years and realize that you are maybe not comfortable with who you are with or the gender you thought you were attracted to. I guess I just need time to figure some things out. If he is meant to be with me he will be in my life again, if not then he won't be. Thanks again everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2013): Just say it to him straight. Don't try to be "nice" OP. The nicest thing you can do is be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2013): If by 'break' you mean 'time apart so you can experiment with women and have him wait for you' then you don't. You end things with him. That is no different to him wanting a break with you do he can sleep with other people. It doesnt matter what the reason is - doing that would make him a selfish dog, and you would be no better if you do it to him. Leave him so you can work out what you want.
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reader, mkateko  +, writes (29 June 2013):
 hi
there is no break in relationship, and you don't have to secrefices and stay in a relationship in which you are no longer interested on. If you are interested on women move on you do what will makes you feel good. How you tell him it doesn't really matter cause there is no easy way of breaking up. It hurts no matter how you can do it, is just that I personally prefers straight talk before bad action or before I found out some thing that will never makes me happy. By so saying I mean tell him straight away before you get to be on another relationship.
It doesn't have a formula to end relationship.
Thanks
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 June 2013):
 Having bisexual fantasies does not have to be a deal breaker in a relationship. Women will always understand women better. Women and men are put together so they will attempt to learn about one another. If you enjoy sex with your boyfriend maybe you could be satisfied with just men without experimenting with women.
To tell him in a nice way you say to him you are still exploring your sexuality. By default men are possessive and don't like you to go one on one with a woman behind their backs. A break is a break up. Don't use that as a time to try things out then come back to him expecting him to just wait on you. People who are your age are still exploring their sexuality so I guess you could use your youth as an excuse. He could be frustrated because when you first date you should have had that all figured out, not in the middle of a relationship. He's going to feel, deceived, and like he does not have "it" to keep you, that you have need outside sources to satisfy you. Basically you have to be able to convince him you can't live without touching a woman, it's in your bucket list. I never have that urge so maybe another aunt can help you with this. This is tough because you never know what something feels like until you try it. You don't know if your attempts with women will be successful so this is a risk you are willing to take. If your boyfriend is not into threesomes, he is going to feel like crap that you are willing to lose him just to experiment something that's not a guarantee.
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