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writes: Dear Cupid,I think that I am in love with my fiance's brother. Long before my fiance and I got together we- the brother and I- dated for a short time. I had always had a huge crush on him ever since I met him. When we dated I had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't really ready for another one so we didn't last long. My now fiance and I had been friends that entire time(about 6 years) and have been together for 4 and a half years now. We also have a daughter together. I have been fighting these feelings for almost the whole relationship and after spending a night just hanging out with the brother-3 months ago- I can't get him out of my head. Its driving me crazy. I don't know what to do. I try to avoid him as much as I can- which is impossible because the two hang out together daily. I do love my fiance but I feel I would be happier with his brother. But the two are so close that if I did break things off with my fiance, I would never have a chance with his brother. I don't know what to do. I guess my questions here are What should I do? Or What can I do to forget about him?
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reader, confusedinlove +, writes (12 September 2006):
confusedinlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually he is the exact opposite of my fiance. He is leaving in a few months to go to school out of state so soon it will be easy for me to avoid him. I am happy with my fiance now, it just seems that when times get tough between us I start thinking like this. Thank you for your advice.
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reader, Twiggygal +, writes (12 September 2006):
 I would definately stay away from the brother, but what I would not do is lead your fiance on if you have feelings for other people.
I think the best thing would be not to hurt him, maybe you should step back and analyze your feelings. Why do you like your fiance's brother so much? Is it because he is so much like your fiance? Do you really love your fiance? I've come to find that you can develop feelings for other people, even if you genuinely love someone, which is part of life. But try to see if you really love your fiance, if not, let him go.
Sincerely,
Twiggygal
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