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writes: I've been going out with this girl for 3 months. The way we met was amazing. It took some time to get close to her as she has been hurt before. Hurt in a physical way. She is 22 and i am 32. We have had our issues and our arguments.Now i am a very busy person when it comes to the weekend as i am a DJ and i work in a lot of clubs, but since i met her all of that has gone out the window as all i want to do is spend my time with her as any fresh new relationship would do.The thing is now she is blameing me for taking up all her time. I work during the week she does not work at all. She always says she has many things to do during the day but every time i call her she is still sleeping. By the time i get home she is up and then decides to leave. Now she is blamming me for keeping her from her friends.So now i dont mind her going out with her mates and have never stoped her, but the thing is when she does go out i am not included. When i try to ask her why i cant be included, she will say that it is her friends and why would she want me to meet them. When i take her out i include her in everything that i do introduce her to everyone that i know. Is this fair?Now we had a argument last sunday over this whereby she called me every name under the sun. Come Wednesday she comes round to mine while i am at work and says to my sister how she is going away with a male friend for a week all expenses paid. What am i meant to think of this? She keeps on saying i am worthless, selfish and a needy person. i am not well off financialy and do try my best to do the normal things u would do in a relationship as going out for meals and buying her drinks. But then she will say things like "If i was standing next to two people one was a millionare the other a not. She would choose the not. As she is a fool". She is only happy when people are buying her things. Is this fair on me?
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reader, pascal +, writes (12 September 2006):
pascal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers. I dont think i will quit just yet on this though. I do care deeply for her as a friend and a boyfriend. I know why she puts up her defences i just wish she could see how hurtfull she can be.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Sorry, I hit the wrong button..... She will continue to treat you like this because you allow it. She has given you every indication that she doesn't see you that way. Does she have to set you on fire and dance around your burning body for you to understand!!! I'll tell you what: Go over to her house, look in her closet on the top shelf, grab the jar closest to the wall, take that jar home, unscrew the top and get your nards out because I think she is done playing with them now and you could use those when you move on. SORRY SO HARSH!!!! But you need that. Good Luck!!
Its all said to help you not to be funny.
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (11 September 2006):
My my my....Excuse me while I tap on your shoulder. She's not interested. A person who cares the least controls a relationship because they are not willing to compromise. You sir care THE MOST
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