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*oshin
writes:Hi there world,i am actually a confused soul...and i need help to figure out my problem. quite recently, i made friends with a senior of mine in college, who used to intimidate me.. we grew close and soon we called each other sisters. thats how we were, would text, call and keep in touch every day... but recently i have found out that i think too much about her, and i am worried if i am a lesbian and i am in love with her. well i have had pretty not so comfortable situations with two of my previous best friends, and that always made me feel bad. now i dont know what to think, i so love her very much, and i cant imagine a life with out her. is it cos i love her so much as my sister or evn worse i am in love with her and i am a lesbian? please do help me cos this is making me mad....
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reader, roshin +, writes (7 September 2010):
roshin is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont knw u, but thnx a lot for that..
And well, about the boys part, actually boys find me attractive, and a coulpe of them have proposed to. but i have always maintained a distance. i always taught that that it was cause my mom wouldnt like it. but now i am wondering... actually even a guy who said he was gay, proposed me. it should probably be cos i am down to earth. i might not be stunning, but i knw i look good.
and yes like i mentioned before, i have had a few friends before. two girls actually, who had kissed me, but i always felt i was doing something wrong. so i would always avoid being alone with them.
i havent kissed, this sister figure of mine. havent even hugged her. i havent even told her that i miss her when i do, scared she might find me wierd. what if i am a lesbian and she wouldnt like it? i will lose someone whom i love the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): I know exactly how you feel. When you are a teenager you are always confused and you are never sure about your final identity until you are older. Had you any feelings like that with your previous friendships with other girls? If you had then you should seriously take the test that lindy proposed you. Try to imagine your friend kissing you and see how that feels. If it doesn't seem wrong then you could take it a step farther and try to imagine your self kissing another female person you know. Try to do the same with a handsome boy and see if it looks good or just with no interest. You said boys don’t find you attractive. Is it because you don't seem to care about them and you reject them making it clear that you just want them for friends or is it because they don't think you are pretty? If it's the first then you should start considering the option of being a lesbian something not as big as it might seem to be right now. If it’s the second then your feelings for your friend could be just a reaction of your subconscious since you are fed up of being ignored as an heterosexual and you are trying to find a way so you can be loved. Maybe the fact that your friend seem to care about you that much is the reason why you have feelings for her since she just answers your need for true love. I suppose that you search deeper in you,considering the option that you just love her too much and you confuse your feelings about her. But even if you find out that you are in love with her you shouldn’t take it by heart since it could be just a phase and even if it’s not, what is better than true love? I hope I helped. If you need any more help just let me know. I wish you all the luck…
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reader, roshin +, writes (30 August 2010):
roshin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey lindy,
thanks a lot for your answer.. i am feeling real good..
er i am sorry about the rating, i am new here, i wanted to give it a full, but by the time i clicked on a star it got locked.. you really are a life saver.. thanks.
but the next part is, i am not attracted to guys either...
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 well if you are a lesbian you'd be okay with the idea of kissing her, being sexual with her and you'd find her attractive.
I think you are over joyed by the fact that you have a great friendship that's much better than others you've had.
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