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*otmanrules
writes:i have another problem my mate wants to undergo this plan but i don't know what to do. the plan is for him to go out with my girlfriend for a day and if she likes it they go out and she dumps me but if not it stays the same as it was help, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, potmanrules +, writes (19 February 2011):
potmanrules is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for helping. I will do that tomorrow :)
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (18 February 2011):
My goodness, I have heard it all now! Young man, retain some dignity and let her go and dump your mate... he most certainly isn't a true mate, as true mates wouldn't be behaving like this. I bet your girlfriend is loving the attention (two mates fighting over her), thats of course if she is aware of your plan?
I would seriously move on... if your girlfriend is apart of the plan, then she is more likely to want you more if she thinks you have walked away from the situation. Some people always want something more if it has been taken away from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): Your mate is an ah. Find a new one and start to stand up for yourself.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Why is he planning to go out with your gf? Whose idea was it? To be honest, i wouldn't stand for this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): Mates don't date the girlfriends of their mates. It's disloyal. He's a user. Of course, you cannot stop them from going out, but if your girlfriend is open to it, wish them well. Don't take her back, however. Find a better one. Or be single for a bit and enjoy that. It's not necessary to have a girlfriend through every moment of youth until marriage. Also, you may want to find a better mate. It's not that he's interested in her that's the problem. It's that he's so clueless he is willing to act on it, with the idea that YOU are somehow the consolation prize. I don't think so. Do you think so? Have a bit of pride, and decline to participate. You don't have to be confrontational or even angry about it, at least publicly. Just drop them both... if they both think this is remotely okay.
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