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writes:ok, so i've been with my boyfriend for not too long, like a month or so, and its been going well...ish. we're both a little messed up[family issues and all] but we help eachother out. anyway, its almost Valentines day, and he seems to be getting...i dont know, bored. he told me that he wasnt bored but for some reason i can't believe it. when we text he doesnt really respond anymore, he just says "yeah." or "mhmm. whatsup." and that happens many times during conversations. i've been trying to give him space and all, but when HE starts the conversation it still happens. I'm not sure if i should give him space or ask him about it or what. i want to help if somethings wrong but dont want to get into his buisness if he wants to keep it to himself.Also, the subject of kissing came up briefly. i told him it would be my first kiss and he said "dont worry its easy" and at one point he said "i always get broken up WITH, not the other way around" so that makes me think to things. 1.)he's gone out with alot of girls and 2.)even if he IS bored with me he wont break up with me, he'll let me do it.what should i do?
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reader, xkatx +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Just talk to him, tell him what your feeling, and ask him whats wrong, and if he doesnt wanna talk about it, then just let him know that your there for him just in case he ever decides to come around and talk to you. and maybe the conversations are jst getting boring, not nessacaraly YOU, but the conversations, try talking about more exciting things, or anything you could do to spice up the conversation a bit. And if hes just depressed about something, then like i said, just talk to him, see whats wrong, and he might come out, and if he does, be supportive for him, and try talking it out with him helping him. and if he doesnt come out, then just let him know your there for him and want to make him happy. and maybe for v-day you could do something sweet for him, What im doing for my bf is making a video, im putting pictures of me and him on it, adding his faovrite songs on it, and all the sweet things we say to each other on the bottom of the pictures. If you dont know how to make videos, then maybe take a picture of him, write a cute quote you guys once said, and make him cookies, or brownies, or cupcakes, or whatever it is he likes, and write "happy valentines day, i love you" and write your names on it with a heart. Just a few ideas. Just do whatever he would like(: hope i helped
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reader, lucii_jayne  +, writes (5 February 2011):
Hello There,
The most important thing is that you talk about your feelings towards each, it helps to talk and may even get you closer together. First kisses can be scary, but relax hes only human after all. If he loves you he will understand that your nervous. If you feel that your relationship is boring do something exciting together, spending time together in a relationship is vital. Find out each others hobbies and get an equal balance of sharing those hobbies. Also every now and then remind him that you love him to keep that spark burning. Good Luck (:
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Sometimes boredom is confused with not being compatiable.
Perhaps it's you thats bored with him because he is not filfulling your needs. You cannot force things to happen.
Are you sure you really like this boy for the right reasons?
It sounds like this guy has self esteem issues. I also wonder if he is bragging so he comes across as experienced when in fact he isnt?
Relationships can only work if the communication is open and honest. I think this relationship is casual, not to be treated as anything serious just yet.
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