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writes:I need some advice and don't normally do this but I've been with this guy for nearly 2 years and had a gut feeling he's been up to somthing odd! I logged into his emails today and found messages between him and a random person on cragslist asking about swapping wife/gf pictures! They agreed and my boyfriend gave this guy his address of the account on kik or somthing which I can't access! I haven't seen any pictures go between has I was only on his emails but with the communication it seems that this swap went ahead. What should I do? We live together and I've moved over 300 miles away from everyone and everything I know to be with him. Advice please! Thankyou! P.s he has explicit pics of me which I have sent to him but didn't agree to sending them or showing to anyone also he took photos the other day during sex which i went mad about and he said he deleted them. Reply to this Question
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (8 July 2017):
 This photo account that his has will have photos of you on it some you will know about some that you will not know about, It might have other photos of his ex or ex's, Scotland Yard have people that deal with this, he must be a member of other forums or sites that share this type image,
This guy has broken your trust it is up to you now to decide where you will go with this if you would be happy with him showing you the password, or if you put it in the hands of the police, if so don't take a hammer to his PC and brake it they will need it in one piece .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2017): Unless you can get his phone and get through his emails; it might be hard to prove anything. I don't know about the UK, but it would probably take a court order to access someone's private emails; and that is not likely to happen.
I think you can only wait and see if anything appears and someone informs you they recognize your images. If you both subscribe to the same social media provider, you can report him and they will investigate him for improprieties or policy violations.
You'll basically have to wait it out. Once someone has pics you voluntarily sent them, they can do whatever they please with them. Once they've been privately exchange or publicized, it's anyone's guess to whom and how. This is a lesson learned and an example to other readers.
So sorry for your misfortune.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 July 2017):
 My advice?
FORWARD the email with ALL the details to your own e-mail account (before he deletes it). Then you CALL the LOCAL police station and ASK them what you can do, ask for help.
I would also suggest that IF he has ANY of your pics on his hard drive/phone that YOU DELETE them (but ASK the police FIRST what is best).
It IS invasion of privacy for him to this. some states have some laws, some have NONE (as of yet) when it comes to this kind of online activities. this is why you contact the police.
I think you DO need to get the LAW in involved here.
YOU HAD EVERY right of expecting privacy of these pictures shared between JUST you and him. What the law in YOUR state says? I can't tell you.
Next step? Once this has been DEALT with legally, save up, pack your shit and move home.
If you DO NOT want the law involved. I would first get my hands on his tech and DELETE EVERY F'ing picture of you. EVERY single one. Then I would confront him and (while this is not exactly high brow) I would threaten with legal actions if he doesn't GIVE you FULL access to the kik (or whatever account) so YOU can delete all picture of you - DO NOT accept that "he will do it".
Next step? GTFO and fly home. If you have to CALL family and ask for help for the ticket/move. If I were you I'd tell him what happened and why you need help getting out of there ASAP.
There is NO relationship to salvage here. NONE.
He knows EXACTLY how wrong this is that is why he did it WITHOUT your consent.
YOU have nothing to be ashamed of (other then unknowingly dating a disgusting piece of shit).
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