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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for a long time i love him a lot but he has done a lot of things that are weird but i have never caught him cheating but i dont know sometimes i feel like he is and hes kinda mean sometimes but he always tells me im the one and that im the love of his life i really dont know what to do???should i leave him or stay with him????? Reply to this Question
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reader, GabeP +, writes (4 July 2010):
Not enough information, but here's what I'll say: if he's cheating now, you cannot assume that he'll stop cheating later. This comes down to the simple Ann Landers question: are you better off with him or without him? Don't assume that engagement or marriage or kids will make him be faithful (assuming, of course, that he actually is cheating on you). It won't. He's going to be who he is. How does it make you feel? Do you believe him when he says he loves you? Can you trust him with your life even when he sleeps with other girls?
I won't go so far as to say "once a cheater, always a cheater", but I will say "if you're cheating now, you probably won't stop because someone else wishes you would". Caring a great deal for the feelings of others and cheating don't often go hand in hand. So you need to look very carefully and honestly at your own feelings because if he's cheating, you certainly can't trust him to do so.
Also: get some more facts. Figure out if he actually is cheating. Maybe the stars just lined up wrong and you got the wrong impression. You might never know for sure, but you can gather more information and make an informed decision.
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