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writes:Please help ASAP!! I am ina relationship with this boy lets call him "Skylar". I love him a lot and things had been going great until recently. He is kind of a ladies man, girls love him, of course he doesnt return the feelings. Well lately my friends have been telling me about how he hugged this older girl. Who cared about that. Then they said that "Skylar" liked lets call her "Tori". I tried not to believe. Then in math shes like, "Hey ur dating Skylar right?" and I thought she liked him. Well today I get to his locker like normal and find her there. He got his phone taken away today and i beard him say "I thought it was you texting me in class.." and they were laugjing. This means that they had texted in class before, and we have never texted in class. They were looking at each other like...like They loved each other. I couldnt stand there so i rushed by and talked to someone else and then left crying, becaus when i told someone what i thought and they said "I know." so heres my question, I still love him. Should I talk to him or break up with him? If I should break up, how? If we should talk , what should I say? Thank you, PLEASE help by tomorrow!!
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (3 November 2011):
Weve been togther about seven months now just by the by :). I didnt really talk to him about it today but I am tonight, and find out whats going on. Thanks to everyone who comented! Really helped!! :)
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Talk to him. You don't know enough facts at the moment to simply break up with him. Tori could simply be a good friend of his, you can't end a relationship based on gossip that your friends have told you.
Get him alone and talk to him calmly one-on-one, ask him what he thinks of Tori and ask him how serious he is about you and this relationship. It's best to be direct and honest. Breaking up will only leave too many open questions and you'll both keep thinking and wondering what happened.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2011): Hi there,
First, let me say I have been where you are and it's hard. :( How long have you been with 'Skylar'? Are you exclusive?
There are a few paths you can take- you can either play him or you can distract yourself so it won't hurt so much if he's playing you. First you need to figure out what YOU want out of this. Do you want to stay together with him? Do you want to show him that you are not bothered by him being a jerk? Do you want to show him that you are actually just as desirable to guys as he is to girls and make him think twice about what he's doing? Do you want to have a mature conversation with him about his feeligns and what he is doing to yours? Think again on that last one, he's a teenage boy and it's pretty unlikely that that convo will have the desired outcome. :( Wait until they are 30 and then you'll have better odds...
If you want to reignite his interest in you, I'd probably be more inclined to go with playing him a bit. Withdraw, become very busy and interested in other things- this is the time to surround yourself with your friends, perhaps even go out of your way to be social. He may just be doing this (flirting with the other girl) to get a reaction out of you. If you go to him, all upset and destroyed, he will have 'won'. He will also know that he can basically get away with doing it again. And again. And again. Really, no girl deserves to live like that. Wait for him to come to you, to actually MISS you. If he doesn't- it's his loss, and you are going to be so preoccupied with other social events that you won't miss him that much either.
Bottom line- if he doesn't miss you, you don't want him anyway. Believe me. Being appreciated and treated well is where you want to be. Don't let a boy bring you down! You are worthwhile without a boyfriend, and you never know who might be just around the corner. Establish what YOU want and don't let his actions dictate yours. :)
Good luck and feel better soon!
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reader, Nizbit  +, writes (3 November 2011):
Girl, all boys are the same, ask him. Look him straight in the face and ask him. If your still not convinced then do what your gut says.
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