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writes:Please could anyone help me? i could really do with some advice and peoples true views on this, i hope you can help me as im still very much in love with my ex but he treated me badly, should i go back with him? or should i move on to a guy that really does want me and will treat me right? first off im 30 with 4 children from a previous marriage. 19 months ago i fell deeply in love with my boyfriend who is 7 years younger than me. After a few months of happy bliss i found out he had lied to me about two of his female friends, he said he had not slept with ect, it was before he got with me. why he had to lie? i dont know but the fact is he did. One night i was looking through the pics on his phone and found one of one of the friends he had slept with in just her sexy underware, that made me hurt so much as i know it wasnt there before because we both went through the pictures on the phone. He swore blind it was from well before he met me and said he thought hed deleted it long ago. At around the same time i had one of his exs telling me he had text her to meet up n told me she could prove it.I met her to see what she had to say and see if my boyfriend really had text her.but she didnt prove he had. A few months ago his other ex told me he had rung her for a general chat, he deniyed that but had to admit it when she told me she would prove he did by showing me her phone bill, i split up with him but got back together a week later. We always argued because i didnt trust him or believe anything he told me. It always ended in him calling me so many nasty names he told me to go kill myself, go have a breakdown or cry in the corner. i found a text on his work phone from a woman 3 weeks ago saying oh i cant wait to see you tomorrow babes xx. I rang her and she explained it was sent to the wrong number and there was nothing going on even though she is one of the customers from work. I do not believe that at all. Last week again a text on the phone no name just an initial. He would not give me the number this time to ring it to prove he was not doing anything behind my back. He said it was just a customer and hadnt even met her.I'm so hurt by all this and i so badly want him back i love him so much. My kids love him and miss him but were sick of the arguing every day. I have been talking to a man in general for over a week and he has strong feelings for me. I do like him but im not sure whether just to go for it and forget the ex? or sit and wait till this pain goes away? but by then i could of lost this lovely kind man what do i do? This hurts so much i long to hold the ex in my arms and make everything ok but in my heart i do not trust him. I think he has been texting or ringing other women behind my back. he keeps saying he has not done anything has not cheated but i cant believe that. Can anyone give me any advice on what i should do for the best? I am so hurt and confused and every time i see him i crave to hold him, please help! sorry this was long but i wanted to start from the beginning so u get the whole idea x
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (29 November 2010):
loraemoon is verified as being by the original poster of the question i havent been on for a while but id like to say thankyou
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (29 November 2010):
loraemoon is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni havent been on for a while but id like to say thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): You call the new guy "lovely" and "kind," but you've said nothing positive about your ex! I think your answer here is plain as day: Forget your lying, cheating ex and move on!
You said, "It always ended in him calling me so many nasty names he told me to go kill myself, go have a breakdown or cry in the corner." This is NOT the way to be treated in a relationship! Your ex has done some very mean things and has hurt your self-esteem on a regular basis. He had no problem lying to you before, so he certainly won't have a problem with it in the future. Fighting every day is not something to do around children, either.
You might "love" your ex very much, but he is certainly not worthy of your love, time, money or energy.
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