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writes: i have a guy friend who has a sex buddy. he claims thats all they are, but the way he acts makes it seem he likes her. he wants to know pretty much everything about her, and he says how funny she is, etc. i know shes not interested in that way, but im worried because i truley love him and think he's in love with her. is it possible to gain relationship from a sex buddy, and how can i go about telling him how i feel? Reply to this Question
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (2 August 2006):
 Hey,
At face value this sounds like:
- He really does like her.
- She's more to him than a sex buddy.
- By not admitting to you that he likes her he can avoid the situation - perhaps just with you, maybe he's avoiding dealing with it himself. (i.e. dealing with the fact that she doesn't want anything more than sex from him)
It also means that if she ever says it's over, he could potentially come back to you and say 'oh but she was only my sex buddy it didn't mean anything else.
It's a tough situation you're in. You must feel a weensy bit jealous if nothing else.
Perhaps if you feel he could be interested in you, ask him out. After all if he had a gf (you - or someone else) he wouldn't need a sex buddy.
Try not to get too caught up in it though, he doesn't sound like the greatest catch...... plenty more guys out there who'll treat you with respect,
Good luck,
Anon2907
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): This guy sounds sketchy. I don't think I'd trust it. If you were to start a relationship, could you really trust him to cut off the contact with his "sex buddies?" I can't tell you what to do. You have to do what you think is best for you. If you think it would be best for you to tell him how you feel, then by all means go for it, but know that it might scare him away. Also, he could very possibly just feed you a bunch of lies so that you will continue to be one of his "buddies." I would just be very hesitant in approaching this situation, because this guy is clearly not ready to settle down. Be careful and think of yourself first. That's really all I can say. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out okay for you in the end. Stay smart!
~RJGirl
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