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writes:okay so im 16 years old, turning 17 soon and im a junior in highschool. iv been in only two serious relationships and iv had my heart broken many times. before me and my ex started dating i would resent it soo much because i afraid of getting hurt and i thought that he would be like any other guy. but he talked me through it and convinced me that he would never hurt me and that we would be good together. within the fist two months he cheated on my once with one of my friends (we werent very close though) i told him i was done, but he begged me to stay. he told me he would never hurt me again and that hes never felt this way for any other girl.he told me that he was just confused, but after he kised her, he knew that it was me he wanted to be with, and only me. so i took him back. however all throughout our relationship like after the 3rd month we started arguing so soo much and it would be like every other day. it wasnt over anything serious, just dumb arguments. and it was hurting us both and we both knew it, but its like we were so in love it didnt even matter and we would both just forget about it the next morning. and then one night when we were talking we got into an argument and he was saying that he needed a break, and i was like if we take a break werer going to end up breaking up for good. and he was like okay.. so wat does that mean ? and i was like i guess its whatever we should just break up. so then we were broken up and the next day we talked and i todl him that we over reacted soo much and that we shud just forget it. but he was like, "i dont know, i think that we both need this. im trying to grow up and see things from the outside and i just need time." so i was liek uhh ok.. but obviously i was upset and angry. so he wud still call me and all that shit and it would just completely confuse me because i didnt know what he wanted. so i would ask him what does he want and he would always say that he didnt know and that he was confsued. by this time i was so angry with him that he would even let me go so i started bad mouthing him and getting people to talk bad about him. he called me yelling at me and i felt so bad because i had really hurt him. right then is when i regretted everything. a couple sayd later i was talking to one ot my male friends and my ex got mad at him and me. and we were all lik what the helll.. because if he doesnt want to go bakc out and if were broken up why would he be mad right?? so we like just talked about what we were gonna do about the whole situation but he would never give me a staright answer. so that night nothing got accomlished, but i slept over my friends house and she fb chatted him later adn was lik telling him that he needs to make up his mind and sotp leading me on if he doesnt want to be wiht me. she kind of yelled at him and just told him that he was playig games with me and that he needs to decide what he wants. te next morning he deleted me from his friends on fb and myspace. so that night the same male friend had his party and i was piss drunk. my ex lik cam over to me adn i was like "fuck you get away from me" but i didnt know what i was doing and i didnt mean it. he got SOOOO mad at me and he told me it was over and he was compleately done with me and he sed he didnt want to be wiht me or b friedns or anything. but that same night he walked me home , but nothing changed or happened. and then we talked that night and he told me that at first when he got to the party he was thinking of getting back together wiht me, but now i could forget it so i felt stupid b/c thats all i wanted. so basically after that we werwe a complete mess and everything was crazy. but after some days we started talking again jsut as friends. and acouple of days ago we were talking about how i had lost my virginity to him and that we shared so much together and we were both saying that we both still want that and he said he wanted things to be the same as they were before but hes not ready to b together. he said that there was nothing i could do, but i still wanted to be with him. the last time we talked about being together and he said "i want to be with u and share what we used to. but i know we cant go back to that. things are so different and complicated." and he sed he was always going to love me and that things just arent going to work out between us. and i understtood even though i was dying on the inside and so now we are friends just trying to make things better but we still talk about the way things used to be and what we miss about each other. i know im going to want more, and it sucks because im still compleately in love with him. i dont know what to do or say. i feel like i could get over him eventually if i really really tried, but i feel it in my hear that there is so much more that we can share with each other and i honestly feel that if we give it another try and work at it, we can make things work.please please help me, im desperate. I tell him that I love him and want to be with him constantly, but it's never enough.
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reader, laxgirl93 +, writes (28 September 2009):
laxgirl93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI underdstand where both of you are coming from, but I dont want things to be over, not just yet. I know it in my heart that we arent over i just wish he would realize how much we make sense. Could it be that he is jusr feeling a little trapped and just needs time away from me? Wont this just make things worse? I dont want him to just move on and forget about me, what should I do? Will he want me more if i am with someone else.
ps. can a male respond to this as well, i would like to see things from an actual guys point of view since thats my problem.
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reader, unique899 +, writes (27 September 2009):
 i think he is using you because he thinks your an easy catch after you took him back after he cheated on you.so he knows you will take him bac for anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): sometimes relationships have to end.
ur only 16.
trust me u have ur whole life ahead of u, i know it sucks since he was ur first but it happens and u learn to deal and move on.
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