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writes:This is a bad story... I met a guy and we've been talking for 3 months and I realized he has emotional problems as well as anger problems. Aside from that, I care very much about him. We aren't dating because I needed some time to myself because I had recently broken up with a bf of 3 years. He left me. The new man and I got Into a fight and my friends wanted to take me out to the club to just relax. He had told me he was going to the mall to hang put with friends.. As I arrived at the club, he too was there! Our faces dropped. I was mad that he lied to me and he turned it around and said, thanks for lying to me, delete my number, I hate you. This guy cares a lot about me. He'd call me everyday, we constantly hung out and I could just tell that I meant something to him. But since he didn't want to admit he was wrong he said tht to me. Stupid me! Did not know how to react, went and danced with guys and even made out with one to make him jealous. Looking back, I feel really stupid. I have never done such a thing. But it hurt to think that he may be just like all the other jerks I've dated. He's ignoring me and I explained to him my reasons but he won't talk. It's been a day. What can I possibly do??? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): Okay.
You aren't dating so why would you act like you were an offended GF and then go and deliberately hurt some guy by making out with someone else and then think this Guy you wanted to hurt is going to fall down on his knees to worship you?
I get he was a drama queen with the whole hate you delete my number but why are you both acting like you are BF and GF when you ARE NOT?
Wot the heck?
Both of you need a reality check and need to cool off, grow up, apologize to one another and either commit to dating one another or just back of and let the feelings die before trying to be amicable buds 3-6 months from now.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (18 December 2011):
 I would give him space to calm down. He is still very hurt.
Wait and see if he will talk to you about when he is ready, explain why you did what you did and reassure him you care a lot about him.
See if he forgives you. Only time will tell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): I agree, let the dust settle for now. Time alone will tell whether he forgives you or not. But I think you have to ask yourself if you believe you'd be able to maintain a successful relationship in the long run (if you got together). Two people can love one another very much, and yet seem to bring out the worst in each other! Often it isn't even intentional. I mean, you mention that never before have you done what you did that night. Of course you were very angry, but you sound like you surprised yourself with your own behaviour. As for your man, did he have to say what he did to you? If he can blow up like that over something relatively minor, how will he react when a bigger problem arises?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's all his fault. I do understand that issues of anger and emotion can be as difficult and painful for the sufferer to handle as for the people around him or her. And it goes without saying that you don't automatically write a person off as a friend, partner or anything else on account of that! I just wanted to highlight a couple of points for you to perhaps consider, because there are times when what's best for all parties concerned isn't the most obvious course of action. Good luck and take care x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 December 2011):
 There is really nothing you can do about it now. It has only been a day so he is probably still angry, I think the best thing that you can do is to give him some space. I can't tell you if he will forgive you or not. But you have explained to him now why you have done it so just give him some space and see if he can forgive you.
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