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writes:Hi I will be married almost 10 years soon, my husband hasn't taken me out very much, usually we go away a few days once a year. We don't go out socially but he goes out with his male friend. We haven't been sexually active for almost a year! He told me a few years ago that he hasn't the desire anymore! He does show affection, usually kisses and hug if I ask!The worst part is that his family live in the area we live in and his mother is quite demanding on his life. He has on different occasions given the conotation that he may be either gay or is he bi-sexual?! He has said recently on a few different occasions when talking about his teenage niece "It could be a boy or a girl!" It is freaking me out, even though I could possibly stay married if the other areas like spending time with me, socialising, showing me the kind of affection that a husband should and not making strange remarks, I suppose demonstrating his sexual desires should be part of it?! I have finally said that I will not leave the house, he said that I should leave! I've done nothing wrong though. What should I do, I am in a dilemma, can't really afford between us to live in separate houses! What shoudl I do, please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): Same as other answers I also advice you if you have a temporary place to stay then leave him or ask him to leave. coz important that you don't stay with him in the same house anymore, and start divorce proceedings.Be strong and fight for yourself. Good luck.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (28 April 2013):
 You should not leave!! If he is now claiming he is gay, that is abandonment and you should not be put out of your home. Consult a family solicitor and find out what your rights are. If you think you can continue this relationship, you are in denial beause he has made it clear that he does not want to be wih you by asking you to leave.
It is game over!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 April 2013):
 If he's gay and not even bisexual, then he can't demonstrate the sexual desire a husband should. He could be a closet sissy gay, he still needs to tell you the truth, and be prepared to supplement you with enough spousal support that you can be independent after you leave.
Maybe he married you to appease his family members. After ten years he's had enough of pretending and he turned his much suppressed anger onto you when in fact he should be angry with himself for putting you through this sham marriage. He can't just put you out. You have to plan for a future without him. When you can get on your own two feet then you can leave. You can even share with a female roommate before you can afford more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): "What [should] I do, please advise."
All you can do is refuse to give in to your scumbag hubby, remain in your marital home, and find a good divorce lawyer.
Good luck and best wishes.
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