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writes:hey everyone.I have terrible anxiety. to the point where I cant do anything until I feel not so worried anymore. I havent hardly eaten because I cant keep food down because my stomach goes into knotts. I get the shakes real bad. Its just a mess for me. The problem is partly my bf, if he dosent call back like he promises then I worry that he dosent care. Our last relationship didnt go very well so its hard to trust him that he wont mess up. He didnt cheat, just got real distant. He nor do my parents know I'm like this, I tried to explain to my mom that I need medication but she wont listen so I just face it everyday. I'll throw this info in incase it helps any-my bf says hes giving everything into our relationship and so far its going pretty good. I know I shouldnt get so worked up if he dosent get back right away but I do. I need a natural way to ease my anxiety before I get too deep with it and lose control. Please, anyone who is going through a problem similar to this please get back to me. I need someone to talk totake care Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): hey there, i am so sorry you are going through this. You definitely need to tell your parents and explain to them what is going on and how you feel, it will be hard for them to understand at first as this is hard when it is not happening to you, but tell them you need to see you doctor first and then he can guide you to therapist as well as medication. You need to figure out why you are feeling this way and how to deal with it. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is known to be really good in these situations. i know how you feel, i have been going through this as well and i know how it can affect your life, but u need to tell people in you life, you cannot go through this alone or you will feel down and depressed. i am sure your boyfriend and parents will be there for you. Keep the strength and go see your doctor, good luck xxx
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 hunny you need to sit both your parents down and tell them seriously that you are suffering mentally and need all the support you can get. tell them how serious it is to you, and how you think you need help. as for the natural remedies, im sure if you went to your pharmacy and asked them for help they would be able to advise you on the best solutions for you.
however, i do think you need to get help and talk to someone, this is the kind of problem that wont only be solved with meds, but talking also. that also why your parents need to realise that this is serious!!
if you wanna talk a little more email me, i suffer slightly from it and a friend of mine also. good luck xxx
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reader, MissRosie  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Hey sweetie,
It sounds like you really do need mediction to deal with your anxiety. I had social anxiety as a teenager and I was put on an antideppressant that also helped with anxiety. You should definately talk to your mother about this again.
In the mean time, when you feel a panic attack coming on remember to take deep, steady breaths to calm down and to avoid hyperventilation.
I'm sure your boyfriend doesn't mean to cause you so much distress. Have you spoken to him about your anxiety?
Also try not to worry about when he calls, you know, deep down that he cares, but you've been letting these nagging thoughts that stem from your insecurities get to you. Try and resist them and think positively before these thoughts have a chance to manifest.
Take care x
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