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writes:hey, i just wanted to confess to something i did 4 years ago that haunts me, and i'm terrified one day it will come back on me, but its unlikely, but i dont know what to do.i'm a good person and i do a lot for others, i teach kids, i do work with the homeless and disabled people, and i'm seen as a caring, honest, individual with lots of friends and a trusted job, which makes what i've done worse, as i have no excuse. after my dad died, a friend and i organised a charity collection box for heart disease. it was 4 months after he died, and we raised $200 on one go, and $200 on the second. half of the money i had, and the other half my friend had. we meant to send it off, but it took us a while to get round to it. we got to the end of the month, and we both ran out of money as we were struggling financially.i don't know what happened to my friend here, but i guess she ended up doing the same thing. i totally ran out of money until my paycheck, and with the box full of cash on my kitchen counter, i found it too tempting. i borrowed $40 from the bucket, with the intention of paying it back. when i couldnt pay my bills, i borrowed $50, then $2... until i had spent it all, and had to wait for my pay packet. now i am on low income, and when it came to the time when i had to pay it back, i was already short. i figured things would be better next month, right? only i never had that $200 spare to pay back. until it recently hit me that i had effectively stolen that cash! my friend never mentioned the money again, and to be honest, my friend is on low income too and has kids, and i wouldnt be surprised, if she had done the same. she is an honest person, and i know shed never intentionally steal, but like me, fell into it. she mentioned once that shed had to borrow $30 from the box. a friend asked me if we sent the cash off about a month later and i lied and said i had, but i felt really bad and awkward. i've thought about making a donation again when i have spare cash, but it will never replace what i've done, and i keep thinking about it. i darent ask my friend, in case she actually sent it off, or in case she didnt, and feels she has to explain to me. its a mess, what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008):
Posting your guilt on a website isn't going to change anything. The right thing to do is to earn the $200 + interest and pay it back as soon as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Well you could make a donation, it would be like paying it back if you can afford to do it. Don't keep beating yourself up over this. We all make mistakes and you do a lot to help people so try and leave it in the past where it belongs.
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